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How to Reverberate Love – Hawaiian Style

Wise Secrets of Aloha

I recently attended an intimate “talk story” gathering with Harry Uhane Jim, a Kahuna (Hawaiin priest), healer and teacher, to learn about the Hawaiin practice of Ho’oponopono, which centers on forgiveness, gratitude, and love.  Here’s a little piece about Harry:

“Harry was born and raised on the island of Kauai, and was trained as an apprentice by the best known native Kahunas of the last seven decades.  He carries a distinct authenticity and is know for unveiling profound ancient truths with a delightful dose of wit and laughter.  As the author of Wise Secrets of Aloha and a revered Kahuna, Harry travels far and wide sharing a wealth of ancient Hawaiin teachings.”

The evening, which was presented by the Wellness Institute of Hawaii, offered a sampler of “Ho’oponopono:”

“…an ancient Hawaiian tradition that is utilized to bring balance and harmony into one’s life.  At its root, Ho’oponopono is a technology of forgiveness, and allows us to release that which keeps us feeling stuck in negative thoughts and patterning.”

The Ambiance of Love and Laughter

Harry Uhane JimSomething very powerful came through during Harry’s talk.  But, probably only twenty percent of the wisdom was expressed in the words.  Eighty percent reverberated in the ambiance of love, laughter, and magical presence so effortlessly generated by Harry.

In ordinary language that’s called, “Walking your talk.”  How you are and what you do often says far more about you than what you say.  However, when all three are in alignment with each other and with goodness, an unstoppable healing force flows forth.

This inexpressible but palpable atmospheric shift occurs through the strength of a teacher’s presence and the expression of their heart.  In this nourishing space, you can relax, open, and experience a non-conceptual taste of a more spacious and compassionate way of being.  You can get a feeling for who you truly, which is usually hidden behind all the ordinary thoughts, emotions, and drama in your life.

Love Lessons from Ho’oponopono

I will share a few lessons from this special evening, but please know there’s so much more that’s far beyond the words.

The evening began by invoking the spirits and taking 30 breaths together.  I know from my own experience that returning to the breath brings you back into your body, settles the mind, and creates more ease.  If you are running too fast on the treadmill of life, chances are you’re caught in shallow breathing.  Taking 30 breaths is a simple way to reconnect with yourself and nourish your brain and your body.

Like almost all ancient traditions, you can find information about Ho’oponopono all over the internet.  People have good intentions, of course.  But just like when you played the game of “telephone” as a child – passing a message from one ear to the next – sometimes the information is incorrect, changed, or distorted.  It might still work even so because the power of love is just that strong.

Harry told us there are two types of forgiveness:  now or later.  And, as he continued to “talk story” with us, he shared the original Hawaiin Ho’oponopono chant:

“I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.”

The chant is repeated often, expressing it to the light of God within you and others.  Repeating the words silently to yourself can dramatically change you, your relationships, and the world because a thought is as powerful as the spoken word.

Ho’oponopono is simple.  But, as Harry pointed out, it’s all about making the investment to live, breathe, and be the essence of Ho’oponopono.  That means taking personal responsibility and regularly embracing forgiveness, gratitude, and love.

Here’s another version that Harry says is even more potent than the 4-line chant.

“I love you.
I love you.
I love you.”

This one can be repeated silently too.  No need to go up to total strangers and frighten them by telling them, “I love you.”

A few more precious reminders from Harry:

  • Love every molecule around you.
  • If there’s an exhaustive energy around you, it needs love.
  • Love creates safety. You can’t negotiate or mediate until there’s safety.
  • Navigate this world by what you’re feeling rather than what you’re thinking.  Keep choosing what’s being given to you by your heart intelligence.
  • You’re not on this plant to be happy, but to get your next lesson.  This universe is all about discovery.
  • Your purpose is to run your own universe.
  • Healing means preparing for the next lesson.

Why We All Need the Practice of Ho’oponopono

Two evenings after the talk, I had a strong dream.  A friend and employee from a previous time in my life was in my face.  His energy was monstrous; his eyeballs red rimmed.  He wanted retribution for what he perceived as my misbehavior toward him in the past.

I woke with a start.  I immediately realized how much I need this practice of Ho’oponopono to cleanse and clear all my past relationships and present ones as well.  I wasn’t aware of any discord between myself and my past friend; we parted on friendly terms.  But so much of our experience imprints at a deeper level and may never be voiced.

Plus, we’re connected with a web of known and unknown people through our every action.

For example, when you buy a box of tea bags, there’s the farmer who grew the tea, all the insects killed in the growing process, the person who transported it to market, the shopkeeper and the cashier and on and on.  Our most innocent actions may have caused suffering for another at some point along this chain of cause and effect.

We need a practice like Ho’oponopono to cleanse our past actions and clear our relationships so we can live a happy, joyful, and meaningful life.

Anchor Joy

We ended the evening repeating this affirmation together.

“Anchor joy so earth may be nurtured and bloom.” – Harry Uhane Jim

If I’ve inadvertently jumbled up any of these ancient principles, I am sorry.  Please forgive me. Thank you.  I love you.

Do you make regular space for forgiveness, gratitude, and love in your life?

Thank you for your presence, I know your time is precious!  Don’t forget to sign up for my e-letter and get access to all the free self-development resources (e-books, mini-guides + worksheets) in the Always Well Within Library. May you be happy, well, and safe – always.  With love, Sandra


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  1. Lovely philosophy / practice, Sandra! Love truly makes the world go around! I’ve come across this before and just adore it.

    Thank you! 🙂

  2. Jean Sampson

    What a wonderful post, Sandra! I am so happy that you got to be with this man and experience his gifts of love and healing. I learned about this on a CD series that I studied over and over. There is so much deep wisdom here and I especially love the new chant, ” I love you” said or thought over and over. I have had to practice forgiveness over the past 10 or so years a LOT and I am so glad that I was able to do it because when the need was no longer there, a strong love and gratitude came in to take its place. It is interesting that your teacher said to act from your heart, which is how I think we all are as children. We learn pretty quickly that the world doesn’t run that way, so we make decisions to not use our hearts but our heads—–very interesting! I remember deciding that I had better get over trusting my heart (or something similar to that) very early on. I remember not liking having to let the real part of me take a back seat to a “learned” way of being. What an affirmation it was to read that, because it means, to me, that we just have to find that original child that we were before we grew our “armor” and let go of our innocence. Does that make sense to you?

    • Dear Jean,

      I’m always so deeply inspired by all the work you’ve done on yourself and manifesting positive qualities in your being over the years. You are such an inspiration.

      It’s sad that you learned to let go of your heart. That’s just the conditioning of this world, isn’t it? But now we are undoing it.

      Yes, I think there is a certain purity of heart that we have felt as children and can bring alive now. I noticed he used the word “heart intelligence” so I think there’s more to it than heart alone. It’s the combination of heart and a natural intelligence that goes beyond the thinking mind. So yes, what you said makes sense to me!

  3. Thank you. I needed that. I love you, Sandra.

  4. Hi Sandra,

    This is so amazing!! What a unique experience you had and I am so happy that you have shared it so well! While I was reading it, I could feel that ambience and spirituality. And I like that dream which reminded you of your past misbehaviour…we all have such moments, which we conveniently choose to forget but they return in this form, especially when we try to cleanse our mind and soul. Superb!!

    Thanks for presenting it in its true spirit.

    • I’m so happy to like this post, Balroop. I can feel your enthusiastic energy emanating from your words. It was a great joy to write it and I love that you could feel the energy of it. That is because you have this beautiful energy in you!

  5. Beautiful! This practice graced my life back in 2009. I’ve been using the four phrases ever since. Ho’oponopono is so simple yet there is so much to know and learn about this ancient practice.

    • Nicole,

      It’s so lovely to “see” you! And so inspiring to hear that you’ve been using the four phrases for so long. Yes, there is more to learn and I look forward to reading the book and maybe even going to a workshop.

  6. Lovely post and practice Sandra. I’ve been focusing on surrender, letting go / forgiveness and opening to more love lately as my core practice. Thanks.

  7. Sandra this is wonderful and I plan to add some of this to my cards…

  8. Beautiful Sandra, I could feel the energy as I read the words. ‘Navigate this world by what your feeling’ resonates deeply with me and practicing gratitude frequently throughout the day for the simple things of life keeps me in a wonderful heart space. I love this and I love you.

    • Thank you, Elle! You gave me a huge smile with your gift of love. I know these practices are at the heart of your way of living! This is such a huge inspiration to all of us. All my love to you too!

  9. Hi Sandra,
    Hubs and I have been using Ho’oponopono for six years. I taught my daughter and granddaughter as well. Now my grandaughter is teaching my grandson. It should be taught to all children, teens and young adults! They are attracted to the simplicity of it all. Thanks for sharing the teachings.

    Love every molecule around you.

    You’re not on this plant to be happy, but to get your next lesson. This universe is all about discovery. (Isn’t getting the lessons happiness?)

    Your purpose is to run your own universe.

    Healing means preparing for the next lesson.

    • I’m not surprised that you’ve been using Ho’oponopono for years since you radiate love, compassion, and forgiveness. How beautiful you’ve passed this along in your lineage! That’s the way to heal the world. These were beautiful lessons indeed.

  10. I’ve read some about Ho’oponopono here and there and been really drawn to it, but as with so many things, got distracted. I’m so glad you blogged about it to remind me. And how I wish I could have been at the talk to experience the entire feeling!

  11. Hi Charlotte,

    So true! There’s so much happening in life. The nice thing about Ho’oponopono is that it’s so simple. Enjoy!

  12. Gosh that sounds like an amazing experience and chance to connect with an incredible man.

    I am making space for it and aiming to make it a regular thing once I’ve got the basics of meditation and mindfulness in place.

    I love you too 🙂

    • Hi Annabel,

      Yes, it was wonderful! Mindfulness rocks and I think it’s the perfect foundation for cultivating love, gratitude, and forgiveness. Love you too!

  13. Sandra I adore this post and ho’oponopono I use it every day and i use it before i go to sleep at night and if i happen to wake and don’t fall back to sleep.
    I love this “Anchor joy so earth may be nurtured and bloom.” – Harry Uhane Jim and I would love to come to that session, I have just put Hawaii on my 100 things to do list 🙂

    • Suzie,

      I couldn’t help but think of you as I was writing this post as I know this is a favorite practice of yours. It’s wonderful to hear how you use it! It would be so lovely if you were to visit Hawai’i!

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