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How to Live a New Story

Girl at Sunset, Writing a New Story

Recently, my sister sent me an old newspaper clipping of women marching in front of the County Government Center holding protest signs.  I was there!  We were protesting budget cuts imposed upon the Battered Women’s Shelter.

When I look at this younger version of myself I see intensity, determination, and a caring heart, all wrapped up in a high degree of tension and neurosis.  The through line of good intention remains now, happily the tension and neurosis less so.

I am living a new story.  In one thread of my rewrite, I am deeply loved.  Although I have been loved for many years, I’ve never fully believed it.  So I always operated from a desperate place of lovelessness.  This is an orientation that cultivates constant tension and fear.  You see, if you do the slightest thing wrong, any possibility of love will fly away.

I can’t say that drama is done entirely.  Our stories tend to be entrenched, and it takes patience and perseverance to change the biology of our brain.  At the same time, I’ve seen people in my Living with Ease course make remarkable shifts in 21 days.  So please feel encouraged.  Changes is possible!

These are some of the threads of my new story:

  • I have a wonderful life.
  • I am loved. I am love.
  • I feel safe.
  • I embrace my sensitivity and intuition.
  • I live with more ease.

These aren’t affirmations, although they could be.  They are simply the truth of my life when the mind-distortions are peeled away.

Try Out a New Story

Would you like to live a new story?  You can.  There are so many possibilities.  You could:

Understandably, there might be some limits, but you could practically do almost anything.  Here are some tips for getting started on your new story.

1.  Pick a story thread.  What are you sick of in your life?  What tired deceptive message keeps you running in circles?  Is it a theme of unworthiness or never being or having enough? Whatever it is, start there.  It can be small or it can be big.  It can be practical or it can be deep.

2.  Set an intention.  Intention is powerful.  Change begins the minute we set a new intention.  Stating a clear intention will imprint a new direction in both your conscious and unconscious mind.  With this new information, your unconscious mind will start working invisibly on your behalf.  At the same time, your conscious mind will have a different anchor so it will be easier to maintain your focus, gain momentum, and accomplish your goal.

3.  Allocate time and attention.  Set aside a specific time each day to work on developing your new mindset or habit.  Be realistic about the amount of time it will take to develop your new way of being.  It could be 20 minutes or it could be an hour.  Just don’t cut it short, and unwittingly sabotage your success.

4.  Get help.  There are so many fabulous e-courses on the internet, and in face-to-face life too.  Or maybe you want to dig deep, and some form of psychotherapy or counseling would be helpful.  You’re not alone with your challenge, and you don’t have to be alone with your change.  So much support is available when you tap into the right stream.

Change is in the air right now.  Don’t wait to be struck by lightening or ripped apart by life circumstances.  It’s easier to be proactive, and move forward of your own volition.

What are you sick and tired of in your life (if anything)?  Would you like to start a new story?  I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

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  1. Much food for thought, Sandra, thank you! (And I love the photo.)

  2. Empowering article and very cool picture. I love seeing older pictures like that. While there are lots of things to get up and fight for these days, there’s something about seeing photos of the past like this one that makes me wish I was there. I like the idea of writing a storyline for myself now and comparing it years later.

    • Hi Lindsey,

      That was a unique time in history for sure! What a wonderful idea to write a storyline for yourself and compare it years later. However, you life unfolds may it be special and beautiful.

  3. Sandra I have never been able to put my finger on why I was always living in fear…and you named it…that lovelessness…the fear if I did anything wrong love would fly away was so real in very profound damaging relationships…as the tears are flowing from your naming for me of this perplexing feeling, I believe now I can finally wash it away.

    My husband has loved me unconditionally for who I am am…he has seen a light I could not see…and I always believed he would leave too…but he has not.

    I think this breakthrough will require a blog post soon and I will be mentioning your fabulous course and blog!!

    Thank you again and thank you for your Living with Ease course…profound gains were felt indeed. I am going over now to nominate you my dear, dear friend and teacher!!!

    • Hi Donna,

      I’m so happy for you! It took me a long time to see this in myself, but once it clicked in place it’s been a big shift in my life. I hope this breakthrough insight will represent a big shift for you too. You deserve it. And you deserve to have such a lovely partner too.

      Thank you for your kind words about my e-course. I enjoyed it tremendously too and it was so wonderful to see the “aha” moments people had.

  4. Like you, I have rewritten the story of my life. I really can’t think of anything I would change, at least anything fundamental. There are some practical things I would change, like having my daughter’s work schedule fit more neatly into daycare hours. And some fantasy things I would change, like being a tai chi master and a 7th degree black belt in kung fu! But who I am and how I live, I would not change.

    Loved the photo of the younger you. I wonder what an earlier photo would reveal about me? I’ll have to look at some.

    • I’m happy you are so content, Galen! I could easily see you has a tai chi master or a 7th degree black belt in kung fu and bringing all your inner beauty to bear on the mastery.

      It would be fun if you were to share an earlier photo of you on your blog!

  5. jean sampson

    Hi Sandra, I am going to absolutely nominate you! YES!
    I, like others, have also re-written the story of my life several times. I did it with lots of help and sometimes painful (but totally worth it!) processing. I am always seeking to find a deeper layer of myself, one with a bigger vision of the world.
    Thank you for being a part of that process and also being a sounding board.

    • That is so cool, Jean! Thanks for your enthusiastic support!!!!!

      I think this is an important point, that you’ve re-written your story several times. It seems we are always a work in progress, but get better and better all the time. I love your aspiration to find an even deeper layer and I’m all for a bigger vision of the world too. I’m honored to be part of your life and your process.

  6. Hi Sandra, I have already nominated your blog!
    I too have been rewriting my story in my own way and seem to be doing fairly well. I have some doubts whether I would be able to carry on…giving up a full time job and becoming a caring and giving grandma but since a beginning has been made, I would like to make it a success! your post has sharpened my enthusiasm and dispelled the doubts momentarily.

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