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Drop Into Your Heart: It’s Easier Than You Think


In these chaotic modern times, most people live in their head rather than their heart.  Busyness, independence, accomplishment, success, and even a focus on self-improvement often take priority over people, and a direct experience of the world around us.

Also, living in your head may unconsciously be chosen because it protects you from dreaded feelings of vulnerability and fear. What if your Achilles heel was exposed or even the real you?  You might be subject to rejection or even failure.

Inhabiting your head may be a habit – a way of being you probably learned as a child from parents who also live in their head.  Unless you break the cycle, there’s a danger you will pass on this life-dampening habit to your children as well.

You might believe you can “figure it all out”.  And, once you do, you’ll have it right and live a happily ever-after life. But, is that really the case?  Isn’t life a constantly unfolding mystery with unexpected twists and turns inviting you to be present to each rich and never to be repeated moment in time?

Take a Chance and Drop Into Your Heart

Take a chance and drop into your heart. See what it’s like!  You’ll probably see life in a far more vivid and nourishing way.  Being heart-based doesn’t mean being mushy, sentimental or blinded by love.  You will actually find true intelligence there.

When you drop into your heart, you can discover:

  • Openness
  • Receptivity
  • Clarity – options and solutions arise spontaneously on their own
  • Relief from the endless mental chatter in stillness
  • A grounded feeling of ease
  • Deeper empathy
  • A simplicity and spaciousness of mind
  • A sense of balance between the world of matter and the life of the spirit
  • A desire to connect with the intention of harmony and peace
  • Boundless joy, love, and a wellspring of compassion
  • A stream of nourishment for yourself and others

Shift Your Focus from Your Head to Your Heart

How do you drop into your heart?

It’s easy.  Just shift your focus from your head to the physical center of your heart.  Rest your attention on your heart area and see what you discover there.  Try to see, hear, and feel from your heart. When thoughts and emotions pull you away, just bring your energy back to your heart.

It’s a practice and it will take time.  You’ll find yourself distracted at least a hundred thousand times.  Just keep returning to the sense of presence in your heart.

Won’t the scars of pain be exposed at the same time?  Yes, they probably will.  Gently lean into the pain and fear.  By simply being present they will dissolve on their own.  Have the courage to stay with it, and you will heal your deepest wounds.

It’s so revitalizing to let the mind melt away and instead, be present from the heart!  Give it a try and see what you think.

Where do you roam?  In your head or your heart?  I would love to hear your thoughts.

Thank you for your presence, I know your time is precious!  Don’t forget to sign up for my e-letter and get access to all the free self-development resources (e-books, mini-guides + worksheets) in the Always Well Within Library. May you be happy, well, and safe – always.  With love, Sandra With love, Sandra

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  1. How timely 🙂
    This morning I got into things before I have meditated, not a good look or feel.
    Yes life is so much simpler when you live from your heart
    Thanks Sandra for you wisdom

    • Hi Suzie, That can happen. Things pop up and lure us away. Dropping in our heart is a good antidote. I know it’s your specialty!

  2. Sandra, thank you for the reminder to drop into my heart.

    While I would not say that it has been easy for me, it is becoming my normal mode more and more.

    Just yesterday, at the drug store, an elderly woman was having a difficult time juggling the cart, her bags and cane. Pushing the buggy for her, I walked her to her car, loaded her bags, and took the buggy back in. It was just a natural act to help another human being.

    While I am not judging, it amazes me that it did not occur to anyone else in the line behind her to help. Sad. Maybe they were too much in their head thinking about what they had to do or where they had to be and didn’t even notice.

    • That’s a wonderful story, Debbie. It’s not easy for me either as I’ve lived most of my life in my head. But every time we make the shift, it begins to create the new habit. I think you are right; most of us are in our head and simply don’t notice other people in need unless it becomes dramatic.

  3. Balroop Singh

    Hi Sandra
    All my life I have been living through my heart……more important for me has been my heart but the pain and the hurt that you encounter at various paths you tread with heart, is indescribable. Lately I have been weaning myself out of heart and trying to enter into the inner recesses of my mind and surprisingly found more peace! All of us pass through these two phases of living…….the sane and the insane [ to put it more candidly] and eventually have to come to the sane aspect of living which is through the Head!!
    Thanks Sandra for such stimulating thoughts!

  4. Interesting! We each need to follow our own path, don’t we? It seems like yours is unfolding perfectly. In my tradition, there is no distinction between the head and heart, so there’s whole different view! I wish you the best.

  5. jean sampson

    If I am worrying and “awfulizing” then I know I am in my head. When I am in my heart, I know all is well and that everything is as it should be and will continue the same. In my heart, I want us all to be friends and playmates. In my head, there is judgement and fear. I like who I am in my heart, but sometimes it is necessary to be in my head. I think we might be talking about the left brain (head) and the right brain (heart) which have two different jobs to do. The left constantly talks to us, keeps us safe by helping us to judge situations and people as to whether they are safe or not, helps with the practical everyday stuff of life. The right brain is the dreamer, the one who has no sense of time or urgency or any sense of danger. It just IS and is not at all protected or guarded. That might be what we are talking about.

    • Hi Jean,

      That’s an interesting distinction between the right and left brain. We definitely need both don’t we? In my tradition, there’s no distinction between the heart and the true mind, they are one unity and aren’t limited by the brain. I believe they/it reside closer to the heart. And, we don’t have to be one or the other but can bring the two together. I definitely love your heart-based qualities, but also appreciate your discriminating possibilities too!

  6. In my early ears, I lived in perilous conditions and lived only in my head. I feared being vulnerable and kept the real me hidden away. I experienced the importance of loving and championing myself from with and that opened my heart. The view from the vantage point of my heart is in alignment with the perspective of my intellect when I am free of striving. Then I am one with all that is. I am peace and I am love.

    • I think this is so true timethief: having our head and our heart aligned! In my tradition, there’s no distinction between the mind and the heart! Thanks for adding that perspective.

  7. Thank you, Sandra, for this lovely piece. This (dare I say, illusion of…?) busy-ness has increasingly dropped from my mind and my heart over the years. It’s a continuous practice on my part. I appreciate the drop into your heart discovery list you posted – what a gentle reminder of the beauty and peace found in simply shifting focus.

    • That’s wonderful and I agree it’s a continuous practice to let busyness drop away. Thank you for the inspiration.

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