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7 Top Books That Will Help You Heal Trauma 

7 tops books on trauma

Trauma is far more common than you might imagine, both development trauma, which originates in childhood, and shock trauma, which occurs in response to an overwhelming event that occurs at any time during your life.  You may not even realize how the imprints of trauma silently direct your life because trauma sometimes remains hidden within your unconscious mind.

These statistics on abuse begin to illuminate the scope of the problem, and they do not include the emotional damage that occurs from development trauma, which can occur from not having your emotional needs meant during your early years.

Research by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has shown that one in five Americans was sexually molested as a child; one in four was beaten by a parent to the point of a mark being left on their body; and one in three couples engages in physical violence.  A quarter of us grew up with alcoholic relatives, and one out of eight witnessed their mother being beaten or hit.

Let’s look at the difference between developmental trauma and shock trauma, so we can better understand our own emotional wounds and also extend a hand to others who have been impacted by trauma.

Developmental Trauma and Shock Trauma: What’s the Difference?

You may associate trauma with catastrophic events, but a different form of trauma, developmental trauma, can occur early childhood.  Both types of trauma can effect your capacity for nervous system regulation.

Developmental trauma ranges from not getting your basic emotional needs met during specific stages of childhood development to full-on abuse or neglect, often called C-PTSD or Complex PTSD.  Complex PTSD may also involve misattunement and/or shock trauma as described below.

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Emotionally Absent Mother? How to Heal Childhood Emotional Neglect

Emotionally Absent Mother

I’m delighted to share an interview with author and psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori today.

Every child needs loving connections with others in order to grow into a healthy, happy and well-functioning adult.

Ideally, a feeling of secure connection begins in the womb and is cultivated through infancy, childhood, and adolescence as well.  Even in their pre-verbal years, children sense when connection isn’t forthcoming.

In response, they’ll adapt, but not necessarily in healthy ways. For many, this lack of connection leads to self-defeating emotional and behavioral patterns that continue to govern their lives long into adulthood, making happiness but a distant dream.

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How to Soften Your Fear, Calm Your Heart, and Find Ease Again

How to soften fear through body awareness.

Recently, I’ve found myself asking, “What is the opposite of fear?”

Some people might say courage, but I think this could be a mistake when it comes to deeply embedded fear.  You can easily reinforce fearfulness or trauma by pushing yourself to be “courageous,” or trying to go too fast.

If you would like to listen to me read this post, click below or download the audio.

I find relaxation through body awareness a better starting point to counteract the kind of fear that’s been frozen in time, implanted in the body, and hidden in deeper recesses of the mind.  Fear is about contraction, isn’t it?  Whereas relaxation through body awareness allows for expansion.

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Stressed? How to Slow Down the Pace

Protect your nervous system from stress.

I found myself sitting in a small, underground room, illuminated by fluorescent bulbs.  The air reeked of an old-fashioned smell, probably piped throughout the building.  This scent, along with the hot pink doors on the toilets next door, took me to an earlier era – but not early enough.

The presenter began his introduction to Organic Intelligence, a leading-edge, body-based therapy for shock trauma.  He shuffled through slides as he ambled across the front of the room, explaining how the human nervous system was designed for the reality of the hunter-gatherer period, not for our speedy, complex, and uncertain modern world.

Stress and Your Nervous System

Thus, nervous system dysregulation can impact almost everyone in these busy times, not just those subject to the distress of trauma.

When your nervous system is regulated, you’re able to respond to perceived danger in an appropriate manner and then return to a baseline of calm.  These days, perceived danger can be anything from a nasty comment to fear for your job.  More and more people find themselves constantly stressed with little recourse for turning down the frazzle.

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Great Links for a Good Life {Summer Edition}

Great Links Good Life

Welcome to my personal selection of exceptional posts from around the web, inspiring resources to help you live the best possible life, and (sometimes) a good book or two.  This edition spans across the summer.  Enjoy!

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Great Links for a Good Life {04.22.15}

Trees

Welcome to my personal selection of exceptional posts from around the web, inspiring resources to help you live the best possible life, and a good book or two.  Enjoy!

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