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5 of the Best Self-Care Practices for Real Change

Deep Self-Care

Do you associate self-care with physical activities like a restorative nap, a soothing bath, or time in nature?  Maybe, to you, self-care means buying something nice for yourself, or pulling out a coloring book to reduce stress.

Physical self-care is important, indeed.  If you’ve established a healthy body care routine, you rock. It takes self-love, self respect, and determination to successfully do this.

But sometimes, physical self-care can be like a band-aid that falls off after a few days, before your wound is healed, if you never take the time to look deeply within. It doesn’t necessarily reverse unhealthy beliefs, debilitating thoughts, and disabling emotions.  In fact, your healthy routine might even fall away when you inner dictator gets the best of you.

A complete approach to self-care needs to include ways to heal your wounds, support a budding sense of positive self-esteem, and encourage you to express your own voice.

I call this deep self-care.

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Emotionally Absent Mother? How to Heal Childhood Emotional Neglect

Emotionally Absent Mother

I’m delighted to share an interview with author and psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori today.

Every child needs loving connections with others in order to grow into a healthy, happy and well-functioning adult.

Ideally, a feeling of secure connection begins in the womb and is cultivated through infancy, childhood, and adolescence as well.  Even in their pre-verbal years, children sense when connection isn’t forthcoming.

In response, they’ll adapt, but not necessarily in healthy ways. For many, this lack of connection leads to self-defeating emotional and behavioral patterns that continue to govern their lives long into adulthood, making happiness but a distant dream.

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15 of the Most Awesome Self-Care Gifts Ever

Awesome self-care gifts.

Working too hard, feeling overwhelmed by family responsibilities, or dealing with an ongoing challenge?

Maybe it’s time to turn your attention back to yourself and to your own self-care.

Although we often brush it aside, self-care is not optional if you want to be happy and healthy, and stay the course.  Regular self-care ensures you feel grounded, think clearly, and dwell in a comfortable emotional zone. It helps you to modulate stress, which, in excess, can quickly deplete your joy, upset your relationships, and compromise your health.

I do my best to make self-care a priority.  Over the years, Iʻve gathered a wonderful repertoire of self-care practices and resources, that Iʻd love to share with you today.   Think of them as gifts to yourself, which you so deserve, and as gifts you can bestow on others whom you love.

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How to Accept Yourself No Matter What

Self-Acceptance

Self-acceptance means accepting your whole self without judgment. That includes your weaknesses and your quirky, difficult parts, the ones that you probably try to deny or suppress.

Do you frequently put yourself down, feel critical of your body, or fear that other people will “find you out?”  Your reactions may be so automatic that you don’t even question them.  You may quickly move into self-recrimination without a second thought.

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Self-Love: Why Should It Matter to You?

Why Should Self-Love Matter to You

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”  – Lao Tzu

How do you feel when you hear the phrase “self-love?”  What thoughts come to your mind?

For a very long time, most of my life actually, I felt aversion to the idea of self-love. You could sum it up in one word:  “Yuck.”  The notion of self-love often evokes knee-jerk reactions and judgments like this, doesn’t it?

Resistance, guilt, unworthiness, unease, self-indulgence, aversion, tightening – these are just a few common responses that might arise when you hear someone say, “Love yourself.”

These are the boulders blocking your way on the path to self love.

It’s likely they’ve been installed for a good reason:  To protect you in some mysterious way.

But there comes a time when the pain of constant self-dislike or indifference is no longer bearable.  It’s time to start moving those boulders aside.

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Self-Compassion: The Best Way to Calm Your Inner Critic

Self-Compassion + the Inner Critic

I’m delighted to share a guest post today from Maureen Cooper from The Path to Self-Compassion online course.

Our inner critic can be very effective in making us feel inadequate and worthless. Learning to tame it through self-compassion is the very best thing we can do for ourselves. Here is my own story of how I  experienced this for myself, and used self-compassion to calm my own inner critic.

Some years ago, when I was in my early thirties, I found myself drawn to the baby department of a large London store. For quite some time, I wandered around gazing longingly at the tiny garments and prettily decorated furniture. Gradually I became aware that I was avoiding the other shoppers and trying to hide myself from view. I kept looking around nervously. Slowly it dawned on me that I was afraid of being thrown out, exposed as a fraud, called out for not being a mother—disputed as even being a ‘real’ woman.

This memory still has the power to move me, and causes me to shudder even now. I had been told a few weeks earlier that it was very unlikely that I would be able to have children of my own. An infection in my fallopian tubes had caused them to close and buckle and the likelihood of them ever being healthy again was remote.

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