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Self-Love: Why Should It Matter to You?

Why Should Self-Love Matter to You

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”  – Lao Tzu

How do you feel when you hear the phrase “self-love?”  What thoughts come to your mind?

For a very long time, most of my life actually, I felt aversion to the idea of self-love. You could sum it up in one word:  “Yuck.”  The notion of self-love often evokes knee-jerk reactions and judgments like this, doesn’t it?

Resistance, guilt, unworthiness, unease, self-indulgence, aversion, tightening – these are just a few common responses that might arise when you hear someone say, “Love yourself.”

These are the boulders blocking your way on the path to self love.

It’s likely they’ve been installed for a good reason:  To protect you in some mysterious way.

But there comes a time when the pain of constant self-dislike or indifference is no longer bearable.  It’s time to start moving those boulders aside.

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How to Surrender Your Resentments and Feel Light, Happy & Free

Learn how to heal resentments + feel happier too.

Most of us are sitting on a stockpile of resentments from early childhood.  You may not be aware of these bad feelings on an hour-by-hour basis, but often they silently dictate your choices, your responses, and your actions.

Resentments suddenly come alive when triggered by situations, challenges, and the words or behaviors of others. They entangle you in endless emotional drama and suck the joy right out of your life.

These hurts must be healed if you hope to find genuine happiness and become a beacon of light for others.

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Open Your Heart to YOU

Open Your Heart to You - Free Loving Kindness Course
There’s an epidemic of low-self esteem, self-doubt, and lack of self-confidence spreading like wildfire, especially among girls and women but men are often effected as well.

So I’ve decided to offer a FREE 5-Day Loving-Kindness course from May 16 – 20 to help turn the tide, in my small way.

Often, these emotional states seem hyper-real, continuous, and impenetrable.  But they’re not.

In fact, research shows that the practice of loving-kindness can increase your positive emotions and sense of connection with others, lessen self-criticism, and switch on empathy and compassion.  On a physical level, loving-kindness has been shown to decrease migraines, chronic pain, and PTSD for a significant number of people.  The relaxing effect of the practice can serve as an antidote to everyday stress as well.

How Open Your Heart to YOU Can Help You

Loving-Kindness is a simple practice. Even short sessions of 10 minutes have been proven to be beneficial.

I’ve created Open Your Heart to You, 5-Days of Loving Kindness to help you:

  • Get in touch with the love that resides within you.
  • Dissolve guilt, low-self esteem, and self-contempt.
  • Quiet your inner-critic.
  • Feel more confident.
  • Shine love on your shadow sides.
  • Love yourself in a healthy way without becoming self-obsessed.
  • Soften your heart so love for others naturally flows forth.

The lessons in this course center around three potent Loving-Kindness phrases that have been used effectively since ancient times.  When practiced regularly, they work far better than a bubble bath as they engage your unconscious mind and so gradually release your invisible blocks to self-kindness as well as the ones you know far too well.

After all, self-love is not just giving yourself a few treats, now and then.  It’s fully hearing, knowing, and accepting yourself and that’s a process.

If the thought of self-love feels creepy, uncomfortable, or self-indulgent to you, you’re not alone.  I’ve been there too.  I would encourage you to give the course a try. You might be surprised by what you discover.

Self-love is not selfish unless you’re self-obsessed.  It’s natural and healthy.

This practice is rooted in the authentic Buddhist teachings, which I’ve studied and practiced for over 20 years.  I’ve led online courses on mindfulness meditation and loving kindness for many years now as well.  The practice is universal however and relevant for everyone, so you don’t have to subscribe to Buddhism to benefit.

What You’ll Receive

During the course you’ll receive 5 lessons, e-mailed to you daily, which cover the following themes:

  • How to practice loving-kindness for yourself, step-by-step.
  • How to lean into and transform whatever emotions arise in the process.
  • Sending love to your shadow sides.
  • Practical expressions of self-love in everyday life.
  • Extending your circle of love, an introduction to loving-kindness for others.

You’ll need about 30-minutes a day to read each lesson, contemplate the prompts, and practice the loving-kindness phrases.

Support for Your Practice and Process

During a course like this, it’s always helpful to come together as a group.  So we’ll have a Loving-Kindness Circle on Facebook, where you can share your experience, ask questions, receive support, and connect with like-minded people on the same path towards healing and wholeness.  Participation is optional, of course.

Let’s put an end to low-self esteem, self-loathing, and self-hatred, shall we?

Because you deserve your own love.  There’s no one in this world who is more or less deserving of love than you.  When you learn to love yourself you’ll feel happier, healthier, and more complete. The invisible line between you and others will dissolve, and you’ll feel inspired to extend your love and kindness in all directions.

Are you ready?

Registration is now closed.

The course is free.  And you’ll also receive Wild Arisings {my monthly note} and be able to download  21 Simple Stress Tips {my free 50-page e-book}.  You can unsubscribe anytime, of course.

I’m so looking forward to immersing myself in Loving-Kindness practice once again.  I can hardly wait.  Please join me.  And please help me spread the word by taking a moment to share this special opportunity. Who doesn’t need a little more self-kindness?

Important Note:  I’m not a doctor or mental health professional.  This course is not intended as a replacement for psychotherapy.

21 Mantras to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Mantras to Boost Self-Confidence

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.  – Lao Tzu

Think of a tiny seed that pushes itself gently through the earth until one day it shoots through, opening to the sunlight.  It knows its mission and moves steadily ahead, without doubt or self-consciousness.  When the right moment arrives, it blooms fantastically, willing to be seen in all its glory

Confidence doesn’t have to be bold, brash, or belligerent.  It can be quiet, gentle, and steady, like the seed that grows day-by-day into its fullness, when fed with the proper nutrients and the right environmental conditions.

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Who Do You Orbit Around?

Who Do You Orbit Around?

Do you orbit around yourself or do you orbit around your parnter?  Or do you orbit around another figure in your life?

Consider these signs, which may indicate you’re circling around someone else.

  • You frequently ask permission to engage in your own activities, work, or play.
  • You feel guilty when you want to take time for yourself and your own priorities.
  • Your moods shift in response to your partner’s moods.
  • You’re constantly tracking his or her state of mind and heart.  At any sign of distress, you feel tension and a need to fix or change his or her state.
  • You’re always flexible and adaptable, putting aside your own plans to go along with your partner’s flow.
  • You’re afraid to rock the boat.
  • You’re always longing for his or her approval.
  • You can never quite feel comfortable in the moment because your energy is not fully grounded within yourself.

Do any of these signs resonate for you?

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How a Good Girl Became Not Such a Good Girl and Discovered Her True Self

Dragonfly

Editor’s Note:  This is a guest post by Sharon Harding.  It’s part of my monthly series Stories of Transformation.

“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

Good Girl

I was always a good girl. I was the angel, the good child in the family, the one who was never any trouble. My report cards were full of words like co-operative, helpful, pleasant, and quiet.

Yes I was a good girl.

I believed that I was responsible for the happiness of everyone around me, so I did whatever it took to keep things running smoothly. I was the ultimate people pleaser and could become whatever others needed me to be.

  • I would like the music others liked.
  • Watch the shows others watched.
  • Believe what others told me to believe.

And above all things I was a GOOD GIRL.

But deep down inside there was another girl.

  • A rabble-rouser
  • Playful
  • Mischievous
  • Creative
  • With a really wicked sense of humour

But this free spirit was held captive by fear. I was terrified of upsetting other people, and afraid of showing the real me, so I held her down in chains. The trouble is that when you live a lie the truth eventually finds a way to come out. When you live in fear it makes you sick. Eventually that trapped person deep down inside becomes very angry and bursts out of captivity. And that is what happened to me.

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