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Tag: Self-acceptance

How to Accept Yourself No Matter What

Self-Acceptance

Self-acceptance means accepting your whole self without judgment. That includes your weaknesses and your quirky, difficult parts, the ones that you probably try to deny or suppress.

Do you frequently put yourself down, feel critical of your body, or fear that other people will “find you out?”  Your reactions may be so automatic that you don’t even question them.  You may quickly move into self-recrimination without a second thought.

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Self-Compassion: The Best Way to Calm Your Inner Critic

Self-Compassion + the Inner Critic

I’m delighted to share a guest post today from Maureen Cooper from The Path to Self-Compassion online course.

Our inner critic can be very effective in making us feel inadequate and worthless. Learning to tame it through self-compassion is the very best thing we can do for ourselves. Here is my own story of how I  experienced this for myself, and used self-compassion to calm my own inner critic.

Some years ago, when I was in my early thirties, I found myself drawn to the baby department of a large London store. For quite some time, I wandered around gazing longingly at the tiny garments and prettily decorated furniture. Gradually I became aware that I was avoiding the other shoppers and trying to hide myself from view. I kept looking around nervously. Slowly it dawned on me that I was afraid of being thrown out, exposed as a fraud, called out for not being a mother—disputed as even being a ‘real’ woman.

This memory still has the power to move me, and causes me to shudder even now. I had been told a few weeks earlier that it was very unlikely that I would be able to have children of my own. An infection in my fallopian tubes had caused them to close and buckle and the likelihood of them ever being healthy again was remote.

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Open Your Heart to YOU

Open Your Heart to You - Free Loving Kindness Course
There’s an epidemic of low-self esteem, self-doubt, and lack of self-confidence spreading like wildfire, especially among girls and women but men are often effected as well.

So I’ve decided to offer a FREE 5-Day Loving-Kindness course from May 16 – 20 to help turn the tide, in my small way.

Often, these emotional states seem hyper-real, continuous, and impenetrable.  But they’re not.

In fact, research shows that the practice of loving-kindness can increase your positive emotions and sense of connection with others, lessen self-criticism, and switch on empathy and compassion.  On a physical level, loving-kindness has been shown to decrease migraines, chronic pain, and PTSD for a significant number of people.  The relaxing effect of the practice can serve as an antidote to everyday stress as well.

How Open Your Heart to YOU Can Help You

Loving-Kindness is a simple practice. Even short sessions of 10 minutes have been proven to be beneficial.

I’ve created Open Your Heart to You, 5-Days of Loving Kindness to help you:

  • Get in touch with the love that resides within you.
  • Dissolve guilt, low-self esteem, and self-contempt.
  • Quiet your inner-critic.
  • Feel more confident.
  • Shine love on your shadow sides.
  • Love yourself in a healthy way without becoming self-obsessed.
  • Soften your heart so love for others naturally flows forth.

The lessons in this course center around three potent Loving-Kindness phrases that have been used effectively since ancient times.  When practiced regularly, they work far better than a bubble bath as they engage your unconscious mind and so gradually release your invisible blocks to self-kindness as well as the ones you know far too well.

After all, self-love is not just giving yourself a few treats, now and then.  It’s fully hearing, knowing, and accepting yourself and that’s a process.

If the thought of self-love feels creepy, uncomfortable, or self-indulgent to you, you’re not alone.  I’ve been there too.  I would encourage you to give the course a try. You might be surprised by what you discover.

Self-love is not selfish unless you’re self-obsessed.  It’s natural and healthy.

This practice is rooted in the authentic Buddhist teachings, which I’ve studied and practiced for over 20 years.  I’ve led online courses on mindfulness meditation and loving kindness for many years now as well.  The practice is universal however and relevant for everyone, so you don’t have to subscribe to Buddhism to benefit.

What You’ll Receive

During the course you’ll receive 5 lessons, e-mailed to you daily, which cover the following themes:

  • How to practice loving-kindness for yourself, step-by-step.
  • How to lean into and transform whatever emotions arise in the process.
  • Sending love to your shadow sides.
  • Practical expressions of self-love in everyday life.
  • Extending your circle of love, an introduction to loving-kindness for others.

You’ll need about 30-minutes a day to read each lesson, contemplate the prompts, and practice the loving-kindness phrases.

Support for Your Practice and Process

During a course like this, it’s always helpful to come together as a group.  So we’ll have a Loving-Kindness Circle on Facebook, where you can share your experience, ask questions, receive support, and connect with like-minded people on the same path towards healing and wholeness.  Participation is optional, of course.

Let’s put an end to low-self esteem, self-loathing, and self-hatred, shall we?

Because you deserve your own love.  There’s no one in this world who is more or less deserving of love than you.  When you learn to love yourself you’ll feel happier, healthier, and more complete. The invisible line between you and others will dissolve, and you’ll feel inspired to extend your love and kindness in all directions.

Are you ready?

Registration is now closed.

The course is free.  And you’ll also receive Wild Arisings {my monthly note} and be able to download  21 Simple Stress Tips {my free 50-page e-book}.  You can unsubscribe anytime, of course.

I’m so looking forward to immersing myself in Loving-Kindness practice once again.  I can hardly wait.  Please join me.  And please help me spread the word by taking a moment to share this special opportunity. Who doesn’t need a little more self-kindness?

Important Note:  I’m not a doctor or mental health professional.  This course is not intended as a replacement for psychotherapy.

How to Embrace the 7 Paradoxes of Personal Growth

7 practical tips for positive change

The other day, I asked my followers on my Always Well Within Facebook Page,

Name one thing you love about yourself.

Bragging a bit, now and then, can be good for the spirit!

I especially smiled when I read this response:  “I love everything about myself.”

Isn’t that fabulous?  How many people have the confidence, courage, and sense of inner security to make a bold statement like that?  I would like to bring my own self-esteem up to that level.

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Do You Know Your Personality Type?

"Whatever the circumstances of your life, the understanding of type can make your perceptions clearer, your judgments sounder, and your life closer to your heart’s desire.”  – Isabel Briggs Myers. Read more to learn about your personality type and how to optimize it.

Whatever the circumstances of your life, the understanding of type can make your perceptions clearer, your judgments sounder, and your life closer to your heart’s desire.”  – Isabel Briggs Myers

I’ve finally learned how to optimize my strengths, improve on my weaknesses, and enjoy my quirks by getting to know my personality type.  But first, I suffered far too many years from “square peg-round hole syndrome.”

I initially took the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator – a highly popular personality test – on a lark in my early adult years.  But I didn’t let the results penetrate my thinking, decision-making, or life choices.

Instead, I embarked on a career as a non-profit director, a choice far better suited for an extrovert, I feel.  I constantly dodged all the extroverted demands of the work like public speaking and networking and stumbled through others like team leadership.  Although my actual skill set applied to selected elements of the work, I often felt ill-at-ease, knowing I wasn’t fully living up to the desired expectations.

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