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15 Things You Need to Know About Willpower

How to develop willpower.

Do you feel you don’t have enough willpower?

You’re not alone.  Almost everyone feels they lack self-control.  And feelings of hopelessness when it comes to personal resolve have only intensified because temptations have multiplied in modern times and dog us at every turn.

In their New York Times bestseller, Willpower:  Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength (affiliate link), Roy Baumeister and John Tierney reveal that one-fourth of our waking hours are spent resisting urges.  That puts our personal struggle with self-control into perspective, doesn’t it?

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How to Fight Distraction and Make Your Goals Happen

There’s such highly charged collective energy around positive change at the New Year.  We’re all eager to get healthy habits in place, set exciting goals, and make our dreams come true.  Anything seems possible.

But how do you stay accountable a few weeks later when that starry-eyed energy wears off, you’re faced with the day-to-day drudgery of making your goals happen, and distractions tempt you at every turn?

According to U.S. News, by the second week of February, 80% of us have failed on our resolutions.

For me though, it’s not about impetuous resolutions made in response to holiday indulgences.  I put considerable thought and energy into creating an annual strategy for my life and my tiny business.  I’m dead serious when I set those goals even if I’m simultaneously naive and overly enthusiastic.

Here’s the hitch for me. It’s easy for me to be accountable to others.  It’s a million times more difficult to be accountable to myself — to my own dreams and aspirations.  The fact that I no longer work for anyone else and thus don’t have to do anything, makes it all the more harder for me.

In a recent heart-to-heart, these words mysteriously slipped out:  “I don’t want to be accountable to myself.”  Where was that coming from, especially for someone who demonstrated a high level of responsibility for most of her life?

This illustrates to me how our fears and resistance run deep.  If we want to make our goals happen, we need a mix of the right tools, the inside story on willpower, and the courage to look deeply within at the sources of our own self-defeating patterns.

Today, I’d like to share some of the ways I plan to stay accountable this year, hopefully all year long, not just in January or part of February.  I’ll also offer a few questions to help you look at deeper issues that might be holding you back from changing bad habits or achieving your dream. In my next post, I’ll focus on 10 things you need to know about willpower.

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