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When Things Fall Apart: How to Cope in Difficult Times


Did you know an eclipse – lunar or solar – can trigger sudden, irrevocable change in your life that comes about due to external circumstances? I used to fear eclipses for this very reason.

I disliked unexpected change.  The kind of change that can make your head spin in disbelief and leave your knees knocking loudly.  The kind of change you didn’t ask for.  The kind of change you don’t want.

Fortunately, every eclipse doesn’t effect every person so dramatically.  But still, you can’t escape change forever.  There’s also the unfolding of karma – the fruition of your past actions – which can twist your world around in abrupt and surprising ways.

Change will arrive in this lightning-like way at some point in your life.  What will you do?

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Can We Get There From Here?

The Crater

Editor’s Note:  I’m delighted to share a guest post today from the brilliant Sandi Amorim and an opportunity to receive a free spot in her new program the 100 Day Promise.

That’s what I asked myself the past few months as I explored the process of change. Because change is what most people want, and whether or not we admit it, most of us have a list of things we’d like to change about ourselves.

The problem with change isn’t that we want to change. Change is natural and inevitable; nothing in life is static.

“Every single thing changes and is changing always in this world.” – Saigyo

The problem with change is that we beat ourselves up when we fail to change in the way we envision. And we do it so often it becomes a cycle that creates the future; an endless loop of disappointment and self-recrimination.

When we really want to make a change, but feel defeated before we begin, is it possible to reach our goal?

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Change Your Life Today

Sky: Change Today Beauvoir Quote

A tragedy like the disappearance of Malaysia Airlines flight MH370 can arouse your compassion and sense of connectedness with all humanity. So please don’t turn off or flip the channel when you hear tragic news and harden to the sadness, pain and grief.

Empathy – which involves the recognition that we are all fundamentally the same – has the power to change the world for the better if we make it our dominant perspective.

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Embracing Transformation: Just Take the First Step in Faith

Monarch Butterfly with Its Reflection

Editor’s Note:  This is a guest post by Galen Pearl.  It’s part of my occasional series Stories of Transformation.

“What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.” – Richard Bach

Years ago, I was a mess. Chronic fretting and stress were affecting my health. My determination to control my world was wearing me out, and of course it was a complete failure. I yelled at the kids…a lot. I didn’t sleep well. Relaxing and having fun were out of the question.

After ending up in the emergency room twice with excruciating pain that had no medically detectible origin, I knew that this was my wake up call from life. As Step One of the Twelve Steps says, my life had become unmanageable, and I had to change or die. So I set about to transform my life.

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How to Live a New Story

Girl at Sunset, Writing a New Story

Recently, my sister sent me an old newspaper clipping of women marching in front of the County Government Center holding protest signs.  I was there!  We were protesting budget cuts imposed upon the Battered Women’s Shelter.

When I look at this younger version of myself I see intensity, determination, and a caring heart, all wrapped up in a high degree of tension and neurosis.  The through line of good intention remains now, happily the tension and neurosis less so.

I am living a new story.  In one thread of my rewrite, I am deeply loved.  Although I have been loved for many years, I’ve never fully believed it.  So I always operated from a desperate place of lovelessness.  This is an orientation that cultivates constant tension and fear.  You see, if you do the slightest thing wrong, any possibility of love will fly away.

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The Wisdom of Flowing with Change

The Vizier on Change and the I-Ching

The Vizier

Do you ever feel buffeted about by the winds of change?  As though life is out of your control?  Would you like to know how to successfully navigate change?

Today, I am delighted to share with you my interview with the “Vizier”, an avid student of change.   The Vizier offers exceptional insight into and guidance for working successfully with the constantly shifting forces of change.

Instead of feeling like a victim of change, you can learn to master,  influence, and transform the changes that take place in your life.

Here are the Vizier’s secrets for working with change.

Sandra:  You’ve been studying change for 10 years.  What fascinates you about change?  What have you learned?

The Vizier:  The thing that fascinates me most about change is how your actions and choices can influence it.  Change is not something that is beyond your control.  It is possible to prevent disasters and to have good fortune instead of misfortune.  Grave misfortune need not happen to you if you are watchful and alert.  But here, you have to take responsibility to manage the changes in your life well.

Think about it.  Every single change that happens has a reason or reasons behind it.  Change is not random or without logic.  It is just that your awareness is finite.  As such, you may not see or grasp the many contributing factors, choices and actions that happen over time to bring about change.  Take the recent nuclear disaster in Japan for example.  Experts are saying that it need not have happened.  Proper foresight and action could have prevented the disaster.  But this insight is the result of hindsight.  True foresight and timely action ensures that your life is more smooth sailing.

The key to managing change well is awareness.  You cannot manage change if you are unaware of it beforehand.  When it comes to change, it is not necessary to grasp all the factors that cause it.  A general idea in most cases about what you can or cannot do will suffice.  In another words, if you knew a disaster would happen to you next week, you would have time to narrow down the cause and to take action to avoid or prevent it.  If it is not possible to avoid it, then you will at least be prepared to manage it well.

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