Editor’s Note: I’m delighted to share a guest post today from the brilliant Sandi Amorim and an opportunity to receive a free spot in her new program the 100 Day Promise.
That’s what I asked myself the past few months as I explored the process of change. Because change is what most people want, and whether or not we admit it, most of us have a list of things we’d like to change about ourselves.
The problem with change isn’t that we want to change. Change is natural and inevitable; nothing in life is static.
“Every single thing changes and is changing always in this world.” – Saigyo
The problem with change is that we beat ourselves up when we fail to change in the way we envision. And we do it so often it becomes a cycle that creates the future; an endless loop of disappointment and self-recrimination.
When we really want to make a change, but feel defeated before we begin, is it possible to reach our goal?
What Is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness means being aware in the present moment, disentangled from thoughts or emotions about the past or future.
Everyone has the capacity to be mindful. But, due to habit, we lose ourselves in thoughts, emotions, sensations, and the whirl of life around us. Often, our thoughts and emotions lead to stress as we respond to internal triggers or external circumstances.
For example, you can probably remember moments when one of these torrents dominated your mind:
“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” – Albert Einstein
Jolted awake by a nightmare, my heart pounded wildly as I gasped for the next breath. Terror had captivated my full being, making the dream and its aftermath of distress feel all too real. Though nothing concrete had actually taken place, it took quite awhile to calm myself down.
I’m sure this dream arose from the events of that very same day. Life had taken me into a situation that triggered a similar thumping of the heart. But, later I realized it wasn’t entirely the circumstances that caused the anxiety and fear. I had brought along an old story that made it far worse than it actually was.
I didn’t see it then. But this dream spawned an insight that burst unmistakably from my brain.