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How to Soothe the Pain of Betrayal

How to soothe the pain of betrayal

Almost everyone faces betrayal during their lifetime, usually several times over.

Betrayal might come about due to the disloyalty of a parent, a child, a sibling, a partner, a friend, a boss, a teacher, or a spiritual mentor.  Whatever the cause, a breach of faith can, and often does, devastate you to the core.

So how do you soothe the pain of betrayal?

4 Ways to Soften the Initial Impact of Betrayal

Let’s start by looking at some ways to help yourself through the initial days after the revelation.  Often that’s when the sting may feel stronger than you could ever bear.  You might find yourself overcome by hurt, sadness, anger, and fear.

You need deep self-care in these moments and skillful ways to manage your emotions so you don’t perpetuate the pain.  Here are a few suggestions.

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How to Calm Stormy Emotions and Reclaim Your Peace

How to Calm Stormy Emotions and Reclaim Your Peace

It’s good to be in touch with your emotions, right?  Not always.

If you become easily overwhelmed or flooded by emotions, so much so that you have trouble regaining your calm, you may need to learn emotional regulation.

Because out-of-control emotions tend to trigger more out-of-control emotions, which usually leads to more distress and a greater tendency to repeat the same pattern in the future.  And, the regular expression of strong emotions can become addictive, it may even re-traumatize you.

For whatever reasons — trauma, highly sensitive person, or INFJ on the Myers-Brigg Type Indicator — I’m highly influenced by my emotions and the emotional states of others.  I’m easily triggered, I spontaneously cry, and sometimes it’s not easy to recenter myself.

I’ve always labeled my emotional nature as “bad.”  Feeling ashamed, I would try to hold in my emotions. But for me, that’s like holding back Niagara Falls.  It only creates more tension.

This is why I’m gradually learning to better regulate my emotions.

Emotional regulation isn’t about denying or suppressing emotions, tightening and constricting.  It’s learning how much emotion you can field without getting overloaded, how to calm yourself if you do feel overwhelmed, and how to pace yourself so you’re not constantly dipping in and out of upset.  It means listening to and learning to work with your emotions in manageable doses.

Let’s look at simple yet effective ways to slow down a flood of emotions, whether you’re a highly sensitive person or not.

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How to Go from Discouraged to Empowered in a Scary World


Do you worry about the explosion of fear and violence around the world today?  It might seem like there’s no way out – the human race will implode, destroying everything else along with it.  In this scenario, attempts to foster love, compassion, tolerance and other spiritual values seem futile.

The humanitarian leader and spiritual teacher Sri Prem Baba sees the world differently.  He says we’re in the midst of a planet-wide transition from fear to trust, from isolation to union, from hatred to love.  If you were able to look through the eyes of spirit, you would see an increase in light in our world.

Prem Baba uses the metaphor of being asleep in a dark room to help us understand the outbreaks of needless violence that shock us again and again.

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17 Powerful Byron Katie Quotes That Will Breakthrough Your Pain

Byron Katie Quotes

These 17 quotes from Byron Katie’s new book, A Mind At Home With Itself, have challenged my difficult thoughts in the best possible way.  Reading this book inspired me to let go of painful thoughts that have kept me in a cycle of grief and anger for months.

But “I” didn’t have to let go.  The books seemed to contain a magic that released the thoughts for me.  Or, deeply inspired, maybe I momentarily let go of the “I” that had been clinging to this particular pain for too long.  In its place, I found joy.

A Mind At Home With Itself is Byron Katie’s commentary on the “Diamond Sutra,” one of the great spiritual texts of all time. This sutra addresses the idea of “no-self,” a fundamental principle in Buddhism.  This mind-boggling idea is contrary to the conditioning we receive in the West, which encourages us to solidify the sense of “I” through competition, success, and consumerism.

In this commentary, Katie makes the shocking idea of “no-self” a bit more user friendly.  And, she provides a method, called “The Work,” to help you actualize the experience of living without a solidified sense of self.

Here’s the truth, you can’t find true happiness as long as you cling to your thoughts, emotions, or sense of a solidified self.  So although you may have no reference point for some of the ideas in these quotes, keep an open mind.   Katie provides a clear path to help you break through your emotional pain.  And isn’t that what we all want?

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How to Reclaim Your Calm When Life Feels Chaotic

Reclaim Your Inner Calm

Do you long for equanimity? I do, but these days I find calm hard to come by.  The world around me, right now, teems with anxiety, anger, and fear, which understandably stirs me up too.

For example, I embroiled myself in a contentious debate on the internet yesterday morning.  An hour later, my acupuncturist told me my liver meridian, the one associated with anger, displayed signs of imbalance — partially acute, partially chronic.

The body doesn’t lie, does it?  While you might charge forward to your next activity, unless processed, anger can penetrate and accumulate in your physical being.

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How to Soften Anger with Tender Mindfulness

How to soften anger with tender mindfulness.

Anger is complex, isn’t it?  You want a peaceful world, but you don’t always feel peaceful inside.

Sometimes your anger burns so strongly that you explode, and then find you’ve made matters worse.  Other times, you try to restrain your fury.

But what happens when you bury displeasure inside of yourself, especially if you do so consistently?  Research shows that anger, when overly expressed or suppressed on a regular basis, can damage your physical or emotional health.

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