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Here’s my selection of the absolute best articles to help you heal and shine and be a beacon of light for others.
I’m including a selection of articles to encourage those who feel fear, depression, and uncertainty during this U. S. presidential transition. I’m having those feelings sometimes too. However, I felt hope seeing people of all different faiths, backgrounds, and colors as I traveled over the holiday and know this is the time to commit to equality and justice for all.
Near the end, there’s a few links, including a few of my own articles, to help you get a hold on the holidays before they get a hold on you.
Today, I’m delighted to share a guest post from Dr. Christine Li.
Procrastination is a such a chameleon.
One day it’s a friendly sidekick, staying next to us while we make our way through the day. A bit of procrastination helps us to tolerate the anxiety and stress that work tends to bring. Procrastination in these instances might even help to keep our overall productivity relatively high.
The next day, procrastination might feel more like an annoying roadblock, just when we need to get on our way more quickly. In these situations, our anxiety starts to climb as the procrastination starts to feel like a stressful situation unto itself.
Then of course, there are days when procrastination can be downright suffocating. It can cause us to feel like we are drawing a blank creatively. It can make us feel like we don’t really have any willpower or say in where our work might be headed.
I should know. I have been a vibrant procrastinator my whole life. It feels like I’ve experienced every reaction known to man as the result of my procrastination. It appears I have a natural inclination to make things take longer. To overwork the simplest matter. To apply drama where there otherwise is none. It’s just who I am.
But I too, am a chameleon. Because in addition to being a world-class procrastinator, I enjoy everything life has to offer — the sights, sounds, and messes, the highs and the lows. I like being engaged, with people, with new things, with ideas, and with the universe.
I’ve dealt with the conflict between my constant impulse to procrastinate and my desire to live fully by spending most of my waking hours figuring out how to help myself and others cope with the ever-challenging twin forces of resistance and procrastination. I have, over the last decade, woven my interest in procrastination into my professional work as a psychologist and coach. I have carefully observed all the ways in which procrastination can take hold in our lives and I remain consistently fascinated by this process.
Reader Question: How do I deal with rejection? I have a daughter who no longer wants to have any connection with me. Was it my fault?
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I don’t have a child, but I can only imagine how the hurt feels multiplied when there’s both a biological and emotional link. Even so, I’m not a stranger to rejection. I’ve faced major rejection several times in my life and each time, I felt like my world was torn apart.
So let’s begin by acknowledging that rejection isn’t easy. Because of that, you need extra infusions of self-love and self-care. Also, be sure to reach out to to others — family, friends, a therapist, or a coach — for the support you need and deserve. This isn’t a time to suffer in isolation. Although it might feel uncomfortable to seek support at first, the love and care you receive will help soothe your pain.