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Month: July 2017

How to Soften Anger with Tender Mindfulness

How to soften anger with tender mindfulness.

Anger is complex, isn’t it?  You want a peaceful world, but you don’t always feel peaceful inside.

Sometimes your anger burns so strongly that you explode, and then find you’ve made matters worse.  Other times, you try to restrain your fury.

But what happens when you bury displeasure inside of yourself, especially if you do so consistently?  Research shows that anger, when overly expressed or suppressed on a regular basis, can damage your physical or emotional health.

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37 Fun Activities That Will Re-Introduce You to the Power of Play

How adults benefit from play

Do you play every day?  If not, consider the powerful boost play could give your emotional, mental, and physical well-being.  Most notably, play can:

  • Relieve stress when endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals, are released.  As an added bonus, endorphins can reduce pain too.
  • Enhance brain function when you engage in cognitively challenging games like puzzles, word games, memory games, or math games.
  • Boost your creativity and stimulate your imagination.
  • Reduce social isolation, mitigate depression, and increase connection, trust, and intimacy.
  • Improve your social skills if they happen to be rusty.
  • Inject more vitality into your relationsip, deepen your feelings of intimacy, and help you to heal resentments and wounds.
  • And finally, playful communication can lighten up a heavy situation, break through anger and help you move through an impasse

Seems like play is just what we need, doesn’t it?

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How to Free Yourself from Unhappy Personality Patterns

Personality Patterns

Do you sometimes feel like you’re stuck in the same place, repeating the same personality patterns, and reacting to others in the same tiresome ways?

Deeply held proclivities from childhood exert a powerful influence on adult life, far more than you might imagine.  After years of repetition, certain ways of thinking, speaking, and acting become automatic even though they constantly create distress, drama, and discouragement.

There is a way out. It begins by getting to know your core wound and the specific survival strategies you embraced as a child and brought into your adult life.  That might seem impossible or too complex, but I have good news for you.

Steven Kessler’s new book, The 5 Personality Patterns (affiliate link), provides a lucid description of the main emotional survival styles used by most people, as well as a clear map showing how to heal and transform them. It’s written expressly for the normal peeps like you and me rather than clinicians— easy to understand, but not sparse on details.

Let me tell you, I resonated so strongly with the information presented in this book.  The insights I’ve gained have accelerated my self-understanding as well as my understanding of those close to me.  I’m keeping this gem close at hand, re-reading and studying the relevant sections and using the healing exercises for my particular patterns every day.

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