Always Well Within

Calm Your Mind, Ease Your Heart, Embrace Your Inner Wisdom

Month: March 2017

Do You Feel Responsible for Everyone and Everything?

Getting Over Over Responsibility

When you take responsibility for everyone and everything, wittingly or unwittingly, you throw yourself into a cycle of anxiety, stress, and sometimes depression as well.

  • You feel it’s your fault when other people feel bad.
  • You feel you’re responsible for your parents’ marital conflicts.
  • You feel to blame if your child goes off in a bad way.
  • You feel ashamed or fearful when you make a mistake.
  • You feel mortified when something goes wrong at work, even when it’s a team effort.
  • You feel like you’re going to have a nervous breakdown when you hear about turbulent world events.

I know this one well as I tend to instinctively take responsibility for everyone and everything that occurs around me.  Does this belief govern your life and well-being as well?

This is just another fabrication of the mind that has no basis in reality.

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How to Overcome Restlessness in Meditation and in Life

We live in a speedy, restless age.  So much so that the constant agitation can change our physiology, causing us to be even more prone to edginess.  As a result, as much as we might desire it, trying to sit still for a few minutes of peace can feel like torture:

  • Your mind races with uncontrollable thoughts.
  • You can’t get comfortable.
  • You can’t sit still.
  • You notice every itch and minor discomfort.
  • You feel compelled to get up.
  • Your must-do list calls to you like a Siren.
  • You wonder, again and again, when your ten minutes will be over.
  • You feel anxious, excited, distressed or overcome by other emotions.
  • You try too hard and then feel more stressed.
  • You begin to judge yourself for your restlessness.

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Are You Ready to Live a Heart-Centered Life?

Heart-Centered Life

The popular phrase “heart-centered” contains at least two distinct meanings.

It can mean electing love and compassion as the guiding principles of your life.  Or it can mean living in alignment with your “true” self – your values, your calling, your experiential wisdom, your intelligence, intuition, and instinct, and the messages you receive from your body.

Both forces can comfortably abide within the same person, but that doesn’t mean they always do.  Being true to yourself doesn’t automatically encompass living from love and compassion. It can simply be a narrow focus on the self and an attempt to secure your own good life.

At the same time, as we begin to uncover our true self, often a sense of love and compassion naturally arises for others.  When we see how we’re bound up in all sorts of false ideas about our self, ones that consistently cause us to hurt, we can’t help but realize it’s the same for others as well.  We’ll naturally want freedom from this insanity for others as much as for our self.

In this piece, I’m using “heart-centered” to mean being true to yourself. 

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The Sleep-Stress Connection: How to Get the Rest You Need

Improve your sleep

Sleep and stress are intricately interconnected.

When you’re chronically stressed, your body releases chemicals that can interfere with you ability to fall asleep and stay asleep. If you worry, ruminate, and feel anxious in the evening, you may further trigger the stress response just when you need to calm your mind for a good night’s rest.

On the other hand, if you’re not getting sufficient sleep, your body will increase the production of stress chemicals. That’s because counter-chemicals are released in deep sleep which signal your body to turn down the production of stress hormones. So if you regularly deprive yourself of sleep, you’ll increase your stress levels.

Either way, you can get stuck in a vicious cycle. Poor sleep leads to more stress which leads to more disturbed sleep. Or, more stress leads to poor sleep which leads to more stress.

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