Always Well Within

Calm Your Mind, Ease Your Heart, Embrace Your Inner Wisdom

Month: February 2017

What Does It Mean to Be a Spiritual Warrior?

What does it mean to be a spiritual warrior?

My last article on how to accept yourself, no matter what struck a chord for many people, even those who’ve been working on themselves for years.

Why is that?  I believe we live in a wounding culture, in which a child’s basic needs for love, connection, and affirmation often go unmet leading.  This can lead to a lack of self-acceptance that remains even as an adult.

As a young girl, I remember picking the petals off a flower one-by-one while saying to myself, “They love me. They love me not.”  I fantasized about being kidnapped or falling ill, hoping a catastropic event would make my parents take notice of me.  Most of the time, I felt isolated, in my own little world.

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How to Accept Yourself No Matter What

Self-Acceptance

Self-acceptance means accepting your whole self without judgment. That includes your weaknesses and your quirky, difficult parts, the ones that you probably try to deny or suppress.

Do you frequently put yourself down, feel critical of your body, or fear that other people will “find you out?”  Your reactions may be so automatic that you don’t even question them.  You may quickly move into self-recrimination without a second thought.

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Self-Love: Why Should It Matter to You?

Why Should Self-Love Matter to You

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”  – Lao Tzu

How do you feel when you hear the phrase “self-love?”  What thoughts come to your mind?

For a very long time, most of my life actually, I felt aversion to the idea of self-love. You could sum it up in one word:  “Yuck.”  The notion of self-love often evokes knee-jerk reactions and judgments like this, doesn’t it?

Resistance, guilt, unworthiness, unease, self-indulgence, aversion, tightening – these are just a few common responses that might arise when you hear someone say, “Love yourself.”

These are the boulders blocking your way on the path to self love.

It’s likely they’ve been installed for a good reason:  To protect you in some mysterious way.

But there comes a time when the pain of constant self-dislike or indifference is no longer bearable.  It’s time to start moving those boulders aside.

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