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Month: November 2016

Just the Best: On Finding Yourself, Activating Your Dream, & Fearlessness

NEW EDITION | Links for Personal Growth + Development
Here’s my selection of the absolute best articles to help you heal and shine and be a beacon of light for others.

I’m including a selection of articles to encourage those who feel fear, depression, and uncertainty during this U. S. presidential transition.  I’m having those feelings sometimes too.  However, I felt hope seeing people of all different faiths, backgrounds, and colors as I traveled over the holiday and know this is the time to commit to equality and justice for all.

Near the end,  there’s a few links, including a few of my own articles, to help you get a hold on the holidays before they get a hold on you.

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What Makes You Procrastinate When You Wish For Something More?

Understanding + overcoming procrastination.
Today, I’m delighted to share a guest post from Dr. Christine Li.

Procrastination is a such a chameleon.

One day it’s a friendly sidekick, staying next to us while we make our way through the day.  A bit of procrastination helps us to tolerate the anxiety and stress that work tends to bring.  Procrastination in these instances might even help to keep our overall productivity relatively high.

The next day, procrastination might feel more like an annoying roadblock, just when we need to get on our way more quickly.  In these situations, our anxiety starts to climb as the procrastination starts to feel like a stressful situation unto itself.

Then of course, there are days when procrastination can be downright suffocating.  It can cause us to feel like we are drawing a blank creatively.  It can make us feel like we don’t really have any willpower or say in where our work might be headed.

I should know.  I have been a vibrant procrastinator my whole life.  It feels like I’ve experienced every reaction known to man as the result of my procrastination.  It appears I have a natural inclination to make things take longer.  To overwork the simplest matter.  To apply drama where there otherwise is none.  It’s just who I am.

But I too, am a chameleon.  Because in addition to being a world-class procrastinator, I enjoy everything life has to offer — the sights, sounds, and messes, the highs and the lows.  I like being engaged, with people, with new things, with ideas, and with the universe.

I’ve dealt with the conflict between my constant impulse to procrastinate and my desire to live fully by spending most of my waking hours figuring out how to help myself and others cope with the ever-challenging twin forces of resistance and procrastination.  I have, over the last decade, woven my interest in procrastination into my professional work as a psychologist and coach.  I have carefully observed all the ways in which procrastination can take hold in our lives and I remain consistently fascinated by this process.

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How to Heal from Feeling Rejected By a Loved One

Healing | Rejection

Reader Question:  How do I deal with rejection?  I have a daughter who no longer wants to have any connection with me.  Was it my fault?

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I don’t have a child, but I can only imagine how the hurt feels multiplied when there’s both a biological and emotional link.  Even so, I’m not a stranger to rejection. I’ve faced major rejection several times in my life and each time, I felt like my world was torn apart.

So let’s begin by acknowledging that rejection isn’t easy. Because of that, you need extra infusions of self-love and self-care. Also, be sure to reach out to to others — family, friends, a therapist, or a coach — for the support you need and deserve.  This isn’t a time to suffer in isolation. Although it might feel uncomfortable to seek support at first, the love and care you receive will help soothe your pain.

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21 Ways to Eliminate Stress from Your Life

Helpful Ways to Eliminate Stress

Wouldn’t it be better to prevent unnecessary stress rather than scramble to manage excessive stress once it’s out of control and wracking havoc on your body, brain, and emotions?

It’s not possible to remove stress completely, and you wouldn’t want to.  Stress is a natural response to potentially dangerous events.  And positive stress, known as “eustress,” keeps you moving through challenges towards your goals.

With a little thought and determination, however, you can subtract many of the sources of stress from you life.  Once you do, ease and joy will become the norm rather than a constant sense of frazzle.

It takes time to eliminate stress.  I’ve been eliminating stressors for a while now and there’s more to go.  Some causes of stress are deeply rooted in the psyche, so naturally it will take longer to remove them.  Nevertheless, I think you’ll agree, eliminating the causes of stress is one of the best ways you can contribute to your own health and well-being.

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Reader Survey: Your Initial Questions and Requests

If you haven’t taken the Reader Survey yet, please, please do!  I would love to hear your feedback, questions, and requests too.  Click here to take the short survey.

Many thanks to everyone who has responded so far.  I love hearing from you and feel deeply appreciated and encouraged by your thoughtful and heartfelt responses.

I want to be sure you feel heard so in this post I’ll share the specific requests and questions that have come in so far.  I’ll share the cumulative totals on favorite topics, interests, and challenges later, in another post, once all the responses are in.

Following are specific requests made in the comments to the survey questions so far. I will definitely write on these topics in the future since you’ve made the request. I’m also sharing links to my previous posts on these topics below, in case you haven’t read them.

  • Healing from the ugly, untrue messages of, “You’re rotten to the core!”  Healing into my True Nature.
  • Life with terminal illness.
  • Dealing with rejection from my daughter.
  • Superwoman addiction.
  • I would love to hear more about your Qigong/Tai-Chi practice.
  • Life balance for the elderly.
  • I’m always looking for posts on compassion and loving kindness.

Here are posts related to some of these topics:

On love and compassion:

On living with terminal illness:

On healing from untrue, abusive messages:

One person requested courses from the perspective of the retired.  As you noted, not all my readers are retired so I won’t be angling my courses this way.  But I’m glad you asked because I know of an online group you might enjoy:  Skin Deepest Facebook Group for Sublimely Brazen Aging Women with my friend, Loran Hills.

If you haven’t taken the survey and have requests, please let me know via the reader survey.

Questions and Suggestions

I always love to hear your questions and suggestions.  I may not be able to accommodate every wish as I have my own limits and personal preferences.  But I definitely take your suggestions into account and try to fulfill them when I can.

Perhaps you could develop some guided meditations and/or positive affirmations to share.

I’ll keep this in mind.  I shared a guided audio meditation in my Open Your Heart to You course, and would like to add them to my self-paced Living with Ease course as well.  So I’m getting a feel for this.

If you added an index with links at the start of each Wild Arisings note, I could jump to what interests me the most.

I’ll check that out.  I’m not sure it’s possible in the format I use, but I’ll see.

Have you considered podcasting?

I’m not a natural when it comes to speaking.  In fact, it gives me the jitters. I prefer to stick with the written word.  So you probably won’t find me podcasting and definitely not as an interviewee on a podcast.

However, I’ve considered recording my blog posts so you have the option to listen as well as read. In fact, I would love to do this and have recorded a few in the past.  It’s just a question of time.

I am wondering if your health is okay recently.

Thanks for your care and concern.  I have chronic health issues, but they are manageable.  I know many people that are far, far worse off than me.  I’m not able to accomplish all that I would like in terms of creating e-books or e-courses for because I have limits due to my health.  But I accept this, most of the time, and do my best to honor the pace my body and being needs.

Thank you again for opening up and sharing yourself with me.  It helps me to feel your presence when I write and creates a nourishing sense of connection for me.

If you haven’t taken the survey, click here to share your thoughts, requests, and suggestions.

Thanks for reading!  May you be happy, well, and safe — always.  Love, Sandra

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