Please enjoy a story of transformation from one of our readers today.
I was married for 30 years and my husband left me. Needless to say it was a difficult time for me. Both of my daughters were adults, although our youngest was in college and living at home.
After the initial shock and some time had passed, I got all my ducks in a row as far as finances, lawyers, etc. My spirit, confidence, and pleasure were nowhere to be seen, however. Everyone at work was planning vacations and I realized that life does go on and I too should have a vacation. I had lots of offers to tag along with others but chose to go it alone as this was my new reality.
My birthday falls around Mother’s Day and I always planted my garden that weekend. The kids, husband, and whoever else I could gather up would get the garden all ready for the growing season. I had no more garden, so I chose that time to take a week off work, travel to the ocean, and stay in a condo. It was about a 5-hour drive from home so I knew I could get there and back.
Creativity Can Heal You By Surprise
It was a great location, right on the beach with no people, very private. There was a lighthouse just around the bend. I walked there and back many times a day. I stocked up on food so I didn’t have to leave my ‘nest’. As I walked, I found lots of sea glass, pieces of wood, and shells. As the week went on, I had quite a collection. I began arranging them on the coffee table and ended up with a beautiful collage. I was leaving in a couple days and didn’t want to lose my collage. So I went to an art store and picked up a canvas and some glue. I transferred the collage onto the canvas and took it home.
What I had on the canvas was a lighthouse with a collection of small white shells forming a halo around the light coming from it. The halo was not a full circle as I only had so many of the tiny white shells. So I used – you guessed it – 30 signifying the years of my marriage. The broken circle signified that we had not finished the marriage – just stopped. There were other things on the canvas that represented things in our life. I didn’t realize how important that week was to my recovery until much later and still I find the beauty in self-introspection.
The final thing I did was to give that canvas to my soon to be ex-husband. I showed him how it was our story. I told him this story has ended but 2 more were beginning – mine and his, just not together. I never looked back and have done okay for myself, as they say. While I certainly had my ups and downs and still do, I can remember piecing together those random items I picked up and how they came together that week.
I had never done anything like that before or since, I don’t think I have the creativity gene. It’s good to know that I did have it when I really needed it though!
What has helped you in times of transition, change, or loss? I would love to hear.
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