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How to Gather Your Mind and Heart and Find Peace

To Be At Peace, Gather Your Heart and Mind

Would you like to be at peace?  Pause then to gather your mind and your heart.

Usually, mind is all over the place:  pondering the past, anticipating the future, or gripped by a crippling emotion born from desire, aversion, or confusion.  The gamut runs from self-recrimination and fear to competitiveness, anger and greed.

Take a moment to pause and gather your scattered mind from everywhere it’s gone – from yesterday, tomorrow, your to-do list, a problematic encounter, worries about work, the French Riviera or whatever pulls on you.  Bring your mind back home into your self.

Use these three simple methods to settle yourself and your mind.

Body still.
Speech silent.
Mind at ease.

Turn Your Mind Within

Sit quietly. Take a few gentle breaths.  Turn your mind within.

You’ll likely see an abundance of thoughts and emotions, but you can let them pass by like clouds drifting along in a vast, blue sky or a train passing through a station.  If you don’t follow after them, thoughts and emotions will naturally dissolve on their own.  In time, your mind will gradually settle down.

In the process of settling,  you’ll probably get drawn into thoughts or emotions time and again because that’s our habit.  So when you notice you’re distracted – off again at the French Riviera –  just bring your mind back to now.

This back and forth is the heart of mindfulness practice, traditionally known as “calm abiding.”  That sounds nice, doesn’t it?  Wouldn’t you like your days to be flavored by calm abiding instead of manic a go-go?

That moment of noticing distraction is a moment of clear awareness.  So don’t berate yourself for getting lost!  In that moment of awareness, you are already back to now.  Rest there with a relaxed, yet alert awareness.

Remember, thoughts and emotions are not “you.”  You’ll find an unchanging awareness behind the thoughts and emotions.  After all, how do you know that you’re thinking or feeling?  Rest in that awareness instead of attaching to whatever thoughts and emotions arise.

The aim isn’t to create a static state of peace devoid of thoughts.  It’s simply to be gently aware in the present moment without attaching to what visits and departs both within your mind and externally in the environment.

The peace you gain will come from not being disturbed by whatever arises in the mind not by the absence of thought, a temporary state that might occur, but will not last.

Let your mind be at ease as best you can.

Touch Base with Your Heart

Then touch base with your heart.

Are you seeking peace for yourself alone?  That’s fine, at first.  Often, that’s what initially motivates us to connect with our own mind and heart.

But when you sit still and actually feel your own discomfort, disturbance, and distress, gradually you’ll realize this is how other people feel too. They may appear confident, but chances are their demeanor is nothing more than a house of cards.  Inner chaos likely drives their behavior too, usually bringing them more discontent than ease.

As you see and feel this truth – we’re all suffering, but trying to cover it up – slowly your heart softens, your understanding and tolerance unfolds, and a sense of connection arises to every single person alive.  You come to know in the deepest recesses of your heart that everyone is another you.

Make a wish that any positive merit which may accrue from your modest practice of sitting quietly may, in some magical way, benefit all beings everywhere – bringing them the highest happiness possible, freedom from suffering, and knowledge of their innermost awareness too.

That is supreme compassion.

Gather Your Mind and Heart to Taste Spaciousness and Ease

When you gather your mind and heart, you’ll begin to taste spaciousness and ease.  This may not happen immediately.  At first, your mind may resemble a stream crashing over a precipice as it transforms into a mighty waterfall and your heart might feel like waves relentlessly pounding upon rocks at the ocean’s shore.

Simple ways to find more inner peace.

But slowly, if you keep bringing your mind back to the present moment, all the thoughts and emotions will begin to settle in the space of peace.  That doesn’t mean thoughts and emotions will never arise, but gradually you’ll feel more distance between you and the risings of mind and thus more capable of letting them go.

You may not be a meditator.  In fact, the whole idea of meditation may seem foreign, esoteric, or out of reach.  But as soon as you gather your mind and your heart, you’ll have unwittingly begun.

  • Gather your mind and heart when you wake in the morning.
  • Gather your mind and heart when you feel uncertain, unsure, or confused.
  • Gather your mind and heart when the world begins to overwhelm you.
  • Gather your mind and heart when someone’s words or actions upset you.
  • Gather your mind and heart when you feel happy and joyful, knowing this too shall pass.
  • Gather your mind and heart when you get into bed at night.
  • Gather you mind and heart in random moments throughout the day and the night.

Whatever you do, wherever you go always ask yourself, “How is my mind and heart?”  Slowly, you’ll find peace, spaciousness, and a warm-heart has become your second-nature.

Do you take time during the day to gather yourself?  To gather your mind and heart?  I would love to hear.

Thank you for your presence, I know your time is precious!  Don’t forget to sign up for my e-letter and get access to all the free self-development resources (e-books, mini-guides + worksheets) in the Always Well Within Library. May you be happy, well, and safe – always.  With love, Sandra

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10 Comments

  1. ‘Gather your mind and heart’ – love this phrase and this thought Sandra. And yes, it’s so much more preferable than manic go-go! 🙂

  2. You speak my language, Sandra! “But slowly, if you keep bringing your mind back to the present moment, all the thoughts and emotions will begin to settle in the space of peace.” Ah yes…the space of peace 🙂

  3. Yes. I work in retail, so there is often a lot of negativity and obstacles thrust at me. It’s hard to feel like no one is you your side. I find being on my own side by learning to let other’s projections go and by realizing where my own limits are is key to being content at work.

    It’s not every day, but each day I take the time to refocus on myself and where I am in my own life instead of where others want to place me, is a good day.

    • Jess, I’m impressed with your willingness to let go of other peoples projections and to also realize where your own limits are. That’s a powerful combination. You’ve really touched upon the way touching base with ourselves can help us feel more grounded, clear, and compassionate too. Thank you!

  4. Hi Sandra,

    Thanks for making it sound like gathering of flowers! I wish it could be that joyful, that simple, that easy to gather the ever wandering mind, the supremely sensitive heart…yet we continue towards the unknown, waiting to get at ease, always trying to fathom the well within us…pun intended.

    We know we are at the right track when we understand and share our thoughts…that is the present moment. Much love.

    • That’s a beautiful metaphor of gathering flowers, Balroop! Thank you for that. I know it may not be easy at first, but I’ve seen again and again how it becomes easier with practice. It also makes a big difference when we shift our view and decrease our identification with thoughts and emotions as our “real” self. I think the key is appreciating the little moments of ease that then gradually fill the well. Pain and sorrow may still come, but we can see them a little differently. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your dedication to understanding and sharing thoughts. Much love to you as well.

  5. Sandra, I am back! 🙂 And I love this post! My mind is like a wild horse that likes to graze everywhere, even in fields that have things that are not so good for it and painful or at least distracting to me! I love the image of gathering (like flowers, thank you, Balroop) and will use that image when my mind grazes in fields of worry and distraction! Love you, Sandra! <3

    • Yeah! The wild horse the grazes everywhere is another wonderful metaphor. Thank you, Jean. Worry and distraction can be so magnetic, but I’m quite sure you can slowly ease away from them. So glad to “see” you again. Much love, Sandra

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