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Living with Ease: What Does It Really Mean?

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“Ego says, ‘Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.’ Spirit says, ‘Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.'” –  Marianne Williamson

Living with ease doesn’t mean sleeping late every day, becoming a beach bum, or forgetting your responsibilities.  Although these may be helpful short term practices to balance over-exertion.

In essence, living with ease requires a delicate balance that includes both relaxation and alertness.  If you’re over-relaxed on a regular basis you’ll slump into sleepiness or inertia.  If you’re too alert, you’ll feel wound up and ready to snap.

“When we are relaxed and happy, there is a gentle rhythm back and forth between the two branches [of the nervous system], undulating between automatic charge and discharge, and between arousal and relaxation.  This gentle rhythm gives us a sense of well-being and success in managing our lives.” – Gina Ross, Beyond the Trauma Vortex, Into the Healing Vortex.

Every individual varies in terms of the amount of stimulation he or she needs, wants, or can tolerate.  The same goes for relaxation.  Living with ease means finding your own sweet spot, which blends a good mix of serenity with a sense of being awake in the world.

Have you found the right balance for you?

Be Intentional to Turn the Tide of Stress

In modern life, we’re encouraged to be on almost all the time.  The advent of mobile phones and social media has pushed us into manic interaction with little relief, amping up stress levels to never-before-seen proportions.

But don’t we personally admire – even prefer – people who can accomplish with a sense of relaxed easiness, people who seem well in their skin, people who embody carefree dignity?

Some people may have been born with easygoing genes, but for most of us learning to live with ease requires an intentional process.  It means turning the tide of stress, which might feel off-putting at first if you’re used to letting it flow.  But what could be more enjoyable than learning to relax?

What Does It Mean to Live with Ease?

This is what living with ease means to me:

  • You take responsibility for your thoughts, emotions, words, and actions rather than placing blame on others.
  • You know your stress triggers and have adapted your life accordingly.
  • You’re aware of your personal early warn signs of stress and are willing to act in advance before stress forms into an avalanche.
  • You’ve learned and implement preventative relaxation strategies so your nervous system stays in balance or returns to calm soon after distress occurs.
  • You’re compassionate towards yourself rather than giving yourself a hard time.
  • You politely say no when your boundaries are violated.
  • You know and respect your limits.
  • You pay attention to signs from your body.
  • You follow your intuition without ignoring your intellect.
  • You’re open to looking at your deeper patterns that invisibly encourage operating in stress mode.

You can use this as a checklist to gently monitor your progress towards living with ease.  Add in any elements that I may have missed, especially ones that hold crucial importance for you.


  • Would you really like to have more ease in your life?
  • What does “living with ease” mean to you?
  • What three steps can you take to get there?

Of course, you have to learn each one of these attitudes or skills and it takes time.  So please don’t have unrealistic expectations.  Just work with one at a time and you’ll gradually find more ease arising in your life.

Notice Stress to Dissolve Stress

Over the next few days, whenever angst, worry, or stress begins to arise in your life, just notice.  Noticing is powerful and can start to shift the pattern of stress.  It will help you begin to take responsibility for your stress response.

Don’t reprimand yourself when these feelings arise.  Instead, simply be curious.  Question the power stress wields in your life.  Don’t just accept your stress response as an inevitable fact.

You have the capacity to live with ease.  It begins by saying, “Yes, I will.”

Give Yourself the Gift of Ease

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Living with Ease offers a complete road map to help you dissolve stress and prevent it from overpowering you again.  The course will help you to

  • Identify your stress triggers and early warning signs.
  • Look deeply at the inner patterns that keep you in a cycle of stress.
  • Learn mindfulness-based stress reduction techniques, proven effective by 30 years of research.
  • Acquire a menu of simple, supportive and fun practices that will help you enjoy life and stay relaxed.

At the end of the course, you’ll have your own personalized stress strategy that fits your lifestyle, preferences, and time availability.

If you feel frazzled far too often, say “Yes” now and begin to learn to live with greater ease.

What does living with ease mean to you?  Are you there?  I would love to hear.

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  1. Noticing stress to dissolve stress speaks volumes to me Sandra.

    I think of living my life through two major lenses; awareness, then practice. Being aware allows me to pay attention to the practices I need to use to live a contented, rich life.

    What a great programme you have here that supports and engages us all in the practice of awareness.

    • We’re on the same program, Elle! I love synchronicity! I so agree with you. Without awareness, how could we evolve in positive ways. I’m so glad you underlined this.

  2. I love your post!

    A new problem that I’ve been working/studying about is learning the best way to balance my work life, my personal life, and just trying to better myself as a person. To give you a better explanation to what I mean, as SEO of, it could be really fun to run and manage it. However, there’s times where I could burn myself out due to exhaustion. It takes constant learning and bettering myself as a person. So to make a long story short, thanks for your wise words.

    • Thanks, Michael! I completely understand. Balancing work and play was a major theme for me in 2014 and I plan to carry it forward to 2015. It’s very easy to burnout blogging. You seem to have a good sense of yourself so that won’t happen! Yeah!

  3. There was a time in my life … I wouldn’t have even known I was stressed … and I promise you I was … but that was an everyday way of life.

    When I moved to upstate NY … I then became aware of the stress I lived in while in the city. I then started on my journey of awareness.

    I love your checklist … great idea to keep our awareness of ease…. And I love this “Notice Stress to Dissolve Stress” – as I said there was a time I didn’t notice. 😉 Today when I do notice – I ask myself this question “How can I experience this differently?” … and I don’t look for the answer – I know it has been answered .. and that always causes a shift for me.

    Thanks for sharing ….

    • I’m so glad you shared your experience, Ellie because I think this is so true for so many of us. It was for me too. I ignored stress or relabeled it for many years, but that just got me fully into the frying pan. It so easy to deny stress because that’s the mode of our culture.

      I’m so glad you found your way out of stress and have a great approach that works for you.

  4. I love that you wrote that living with ease means taking responsibility and not placing blame on others. It seems like a lot of people turn to blame because they want to feel better about their own actions, but then it backfires. I find that when I take responsibility for my actions and thoughts, I always feel much better. Great insight!

    • Thanks, Daniela. I think, especially in the case of stress, it’s easy to blame external circumstances. And, they of course can be a factor. But ultimately, if we want to be happy and healthy, we need to take self-responsibility and work with our responses to stress or change our circumstances. I so agree with you that blaming others ends up backfiring! It’s a huge step to take responsibility for our actions. I’m so glad it makes you feel much better! Thanks so much for adding to the conversation.

  5. Sandra-

    Beautifully crafted post. I love your phrase ‘living with ease’. I think our culture is so focused on ‘dis-ease’, that if we TRULY went back to the basics, then how different life can be. And when your energy is calm and at peace, it is a radiating at a high level….and that effects the whole world. The beauty of everyday life- getting up slowly and thanking god for being alive, taking time with your morning routine, and being in touch with yourself and emotions throughout the day-especially if you’re in the corporate world–giving thanks for all that you have and practicing at staying mindful…man, if we all worked on this, the world would become one love fest.

    As always, Sandra, your posts are meaty and worth reading. I rarely leave comments any more on any posts. But I didn’t want to begin 2015 without letting you know how much I appreciate your contributions to the world. Who you are comes shining through in your posts.

    With gratitude and love-Fran

    • I’m so touched by your appreciative words, Fran. Thank you so much. I’m so grateful for all the goodness you bring into the world and how you mix soul seeds with gardening seed, one of my favorite combinations!

      I so agree with you! The world could be so beautiful and it begins with a shift in our own minds. Wouldn’t it be lovely to live in peace, gratitude, beauty, and happiness!

  6. Thanks for the inspirational post! I love the idea of living with ease.
    And love the Marianne Williamson quote at the beginning!
    Thanks Sandra!

    • You’re welcome, Betsy! I find that quote very provocative because it’s often just the opposite of what we do. Thanks for your visit. Be well!

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