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Month: November 2014

Good Links for a Happy Life: From Loss to Freedom

Winter Landscape

Welcome to my monthly (or so) collection of exceptional posts from around the web, a good book or two, and practical resources to help you live the best possible life.  Enjoy!

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The Secret to Equanimity: Everyone Is Another You

People in Hot Springs

“After all, all human beings are the same – made of human flesh, bones and blood.  We all want happiness and want to avoid suffering. Further, we have an equal right to be happy.  In other words, it is important to realize our sameness as human beings.” – The Dalai Lama

What would happen if you started to see people as another “you?”

  • Like you, they just want to be happy and they don’t want to suffer.  But they don’t necessarily know how to be happy so they engage in behaviors that bring the opposite of what they desire for themselves and others. Addiction, overeating, obsessive ambition, perfectionism – the list of confused behaviors is endless and they all stem from wanting happiness, but going about it the wrong way.
  • Like you, they have unconscious, deeply rooted patterns that govern much of their behavior.  Half the time, they don’t know why they do what they do or can’t control the storm of emotions that dominates their life.
  • Like you, their true nature is divine.  But they don’t realize it.  So they take their thoughts and emotions to be  real and as their entire identity.  Instead they could find spaciousness and ease by recognizing thoughts as ever-changing, refusing to hold onto them, and aligning with their true essence.

Deep down, everyone is really just like you with the similar confusions and the same incredible potential for good.

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How to Increase Your Joy During the Holidays

Do you long to feel joy at the holidays, but find yourself dreading their arrival? Do you feel apprehensive about the busyness, the stress, the expectation and obligations, or the feelings of sadness or depression that may visit at this time of the year?

It doesn’t have to be this way.  You’re not sentenced to a lifetime of holiday despair no matter how long you’ve followed the same routine. If the holidays bring you more angst than excitement, you can turn it around, little by little.

In this mini-guide to holiday joy, we’ll consider:

  • Getting in touch with what brings you joy.
  • Saying “yes” to you and “no” to whatever doesn’t work for you.
  • Replacing dread, stress, and other negative emotions with joy.

And if you already love the holidays, this might make them even better.

Ready to go?

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How to Avoid the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying

White Lily

In her best-selling memoir, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing, Bronnie Ware shares 5 disappointments people commonly express as they near death. See if any of these ring true for you:

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Do one or more of these fit for you?  Then you know where to begin to avoid last minute regrets. And it would be good to start now because it takes time to change habits.

However, your regrets may have an entirely different flavor.  Fortunately, you don’t have to wait until you’re dying to know what you’ll regret. Just take an honest look at your life right now.

If you died this very moment, what would you regret? 

Grab a piece of paper and jot down what immediately comes to mind.  Then sit with it for awhile.

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How Long Can You Sit Quietly By Yourself?

Quiet Sitting in Flower Garden

“If you’re too busy to sit still for 10 minutes, you need to sit still for an hour.” – Zen proverb

Does the idea of sitting still for an entire hour immediately freak you out?  Hold on then!  We won’t go that fast.

But please stay open and let’s explore the meaning and purpose of this radical idea.

Remember, you don’t have be a meditator to sit quietly.  Anyone can give it a try and directly experience the benefits for themselves, for example:

  • Quiet nourishes your nervous system.
  • Quiet helps you let go of unnecessary activity.
  • Quiet enhances creativity.
  • Quiet turns down the static so you can tap into your intuition and connect with your innermost wisdom.
  • Quiet creates space in which you can tune into your body’s messages, averting future problems.
  • Quiet allows new solutions to arise so you’ll be able to handle situations differently.
  • Quiet promotes spaciousness and humor, so you’ll be less perturbed by all the craziness of modern life.  And people, too.

Maybe an hour of quiet wouldn’t be so terrible after all!

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