Always Well Within

Calm Your Mind, Ease Your Heart, Embrace Your Inner Wisdom

Month: March 2014 (Page 1 of 2)

How to Accept the Unacceptable

Bolt of lightning

Editor’s Note:  This post responds to requests made by readers who asked me to write about accepting chronic illness like fibromyalgia or chronic fatigue and facing cancer as well as other physical challenges.

Like a bolt of lightning out of the blue, my health unexpectedly took a plunge 10 years ago.  Muscle, joint, and neurological pain, gut distress, sleepless nights, fatigue, and multiple intolerances became my new companions.  At my low point, I weighed 84 pounds.

I wish I could say I embraced this change gracefully.  But, actually I fought it.  My Virgo disposition turned on my obsessive solution-seeker.  I spent most of my time in my head pouring over information in order to “fix it” instead of being present with the new me.  A tough nut, it took me considerable time – years – to accept the unacceptable.  And, I can’t even say that I’ve fully accepted it now, but I feel more at peace with it.

There will come a time in your life when the unacceptable arrives, too. That’s just how life is.  The unwanted might appear as a serious illness, cheating spouse, job termination, death of a loved one, or in one of countless other possible ways. As much as you might try – like me – you cannot escape undesirable changes.  But, if you’re willing to work consciously with whatever comes, the pain will gradually soften and you can find great strength in your vulnerability.

Here are some of my hard-won insights from living with chronic illness, which may also be relevant to other types of unexpected change that occurs.  Let me warn you, none of what I share will be easy.  You’ll probably want to cling to the past or a better future. I fully understand.  But, I have every confidence that with time you’ll embrace the journey – your journey – that has been placed in front of you.

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Good Links for a Happy Life: From Overwhelm to Complete

My Morning View by Tammy Strobel

This is my occasional collection of exceptional posts, good books, and helpful resources to help you live the best life possible.  Enjoy!

Articles

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I Hear You! Reader Survey Results

Water Lillies:  Always Well Within

When I read your responses to my Reader Survey, I couldn’t help but feel you are my “perfect people.”  You get Always Well Within and you get me.

Although we are beautifully in sync, your responses show me where to focus so I can benefit you even more. And, they highlight where not to go so I don’t waste your time.

Thank you so much for your heartfelt replies.  I feel deeply moved by all that you’ve said and alert to your requests, which I will incorporate in my future posts.  Here are the survey questions and an overview of your collective responses.

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Are You Constantly Driven to Do More?

Sisyphus - Constantly Driven

Public Sculpture Sisyphus by Anna Chromy

Do you have an overbearing inner voice constantly driving you to do more?

I hope not, but productivity remains the ethos of modern culture.  Even though there’s a counter-movement towards simplifying one’s life and working less, chances are the demand to be productive has permeated your core.

Although I’m a champion of living with ease, I’ve recently discovered my “driver”, whose enthusiastically trying to trip up my year with less pressure.  She’s the one that’s always pushing me to do more, entwining her messages with the implication that I might not be good enough.

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Change Your Life Today

Sky: Change Today Beauvoir Quote

A tragedy like the disappearance of Malaysia Airlines flight MH370 can arouse your compassion and sense of connectedness with all humanity. So please don’t turn off or flip the channel when you hear tragic news and harden to the sadness, pain and grief.

Empathy – which involves the recognition that we are all fundamentally the same – has the power to change the world for the better if we make it our dominant perspective.

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Good, Evil and the Meaning of Always Well Within

Sunrise Reflecting Good and Evil

How do we think about and respond to the evil that exists in our world?  One of my readers put this question forth when they responded to my Reader Survey:

“How can you always talk about good and good when the world is full of wicked, manipulative and negative minded people? All is not always well within, I think once in a while we would like to hear your views about these facts of life.”

Thank you for asking so honestly.  You’re so right, we’re not always well within.  In fact, many of us are thrown about by our own litany of thoughts, emotions, and habitual patterns.

Anger, desire, greed, envy, anxiety, fear, and doubt are just a few of the emotions that seem to constantly spark us.  Even those who aspire to lead a wholesome life are confronted by their dark emotions, not to mention those intentionally engaged in foul actions.

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