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You Are Worthy! It’s a Fact!

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The idea of unworthiness was planted like a seed in the garden of your mind many moons ago.  It grew and it grew and it grew.  But it’s really just a tenacious weed that can be pulled and demolished making more space for love, joy, and compassion to bloom.

You are worthy.

Say this to yourself, again and again.

In fact, there’s no one more worthy than you in this entire world because we are all equally worthy.

Your true essence is divine so it’s fundamentally impossible to be unworthy.  Unworthiness is a lie.  When you peel away all the layers of deceptive thinking like, “I’m not worthy,” you’ll discover an unchanging pure awareness, a fundamental goodness.  That is the real you.

You are worthy.

This isn’t just a story.  It’s the truth.

Yes, there are many unhelpful mental and emotional habits to be purified and cleared away.  You may confuse these deeply embedded patterns of convoluted thinking and past negative actions as “you.”  But these are adventitious stains, meaning they are not permanent.  They are subject to change.

For example, you can counter anger with love or pride with humility.  You can counter any negative emotion with its opposite.  You can train your mind in goodness, and realize your full potential.  That’s exactly why we are here.

So drop this false idea of unworthiness!  Your true being is patiently waiting to shine through.  If only you could believe in your fundamental goodness, your world would be such a different place.

Don’t believe the lie!  Reject it.  Ignore it.  Counter it:  “Even though I feel unworthy, I completely love and accept myself.”  Smash it to bits with love, humor, and glee.

You are worthy.

It’s an indisputable fact.

Do you struggle with a sense of unworthiness?  Can you imagine letting it go?

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23 Comments

  1. My mother struggled with a sense of unworthiness her whole life. I love Joel Osteen’s line: “God was not having a bad day when he made you.”

  2. jean sampson

    I have changed so much in the last 20 or 30 years, that it is hard for me to remember when I felt unworthy (I think ” worthless” would be more the feeling that I had). But for the first 35 or 40 years of my life, I DID feel exactly that! I have done SO MUCH personal emotional and spiritual work, and finally, I really “got” who I am and I am SO grateful to have had the opportunities to work on my self-image. It breaks my heart to see that people of all ages do feel that they are unworthy or worthless. I do hope people find a way to discover who they really are!

    • It makes me so happy to hear that you have been far away from feeling worthless for so many years, Jean! It shows what’s possible in this life. I’m with you in hoping that everyone discovers who they really are, which is so precious and worthwhile. Thanks for your lovely example.

  3. HI Sandra….As I was reading this, I was wondering who plants this seed in the minds of those who feel ‘unworthy’? Is it their own mind or the way they have been treated by their families, peers or society? I have often helped my students to steer out of this worthless idea…many times, I have tried to dig deeper and most probably the stimulus lies around us.
    I like the motivational tone of your post!

    • Hi Balroop,

      I think it’s interactive and occurs when we’re young. Our parents or someone significant in our life say something, it may be meant innocently, but it gets planted in our mind. The we start to see the world through that frame and perceive other statements to confirm it. Thus we come to believe this false notion of our self as it grows stronger through repetition. I think “we” are a big piece of the puzzle, but we are not necessarily doing this intentionally or consciously. Getting conscious is the way out. I’m happy to hear you’ve helped many students move away from this false belief! That must feel very rewarding.

  4. Unworthiness has been the single largest struggle I’ve faced in life. I had been through an emotionally abusive situation (which I only fell into, because I felt unworthy), and quite firmly believed I was inherently flawed and didn’t deserve to be alive. Beating up on myself was a habit, and anytime I tried to do anything to counteract these thoughts, by brain would reject it as fake or untrue.

    It was a long journey from there to here, and it took a combination of determination on my part and a LOT of help from others. I learned to ask myself a series of questions to determine whether my perceptions are accurate, to see my innocence and understand that I always do the best I can with what I have at the time, and finally, to stop seeking approval and assurance from outside of myself. It’s difficult, but undoing that kind of thinking is SO important. I don’t believe that I was able to love fully, until I stopped placing my self-worth in the hands of others.

    • Thanks for sharing your journey. You’re so right that this is a journey and it can be difficult because we are up against very deeply ingrained patterns of the mind. But if we can make even a tiny tear in that believe and see a little bit of sky instead of repeating the same false beliefs, we will be on our way, we will have begun. Your story is such an inspiration and I appreciate all your hard work and determination.

  5. There can still be moments in my life Sandra when I think I don’t know enough (unworthy) or what if it doesn’t work for me (unworthy) although over the years I’ve learned to intervene with thoughts that take me down that path. Just as you say we can train our mind, and for me it’s a continually process and one that I’m getting better at all the time.

    • Hi Elle,

      Thanks for sharing so honestly, The same is true for me too, Elle! It’s truly a lifelong process and there are moments when my knees are knocking. I’m excited to hear that you are getting better all the time. That’s so encouraging!

  6. Hi Sandra, I too, like others above, have had to deal with bouts of unworthiness at different points in my life. But focusing on a spiritual practice has given me the tools to embrace my worth. I no longer allow circumstances, others or society to define me. I am now more comfortable with myself and my worth. I ignore the untrue thoughts and self-critical comments which my mind creates and embrace the loving and kind ones. It’s all perspective – I chose the more worthy one.

    • You sound so clear and strong, Vishnu! I’m so happy for you. I agree, it’s all about perspective and you are choosing wisely.

  7. Hello Sandra,

    Great post although I have to kind of disagree about the essence of it. I don’t mean to be rude and I take the liberty to express my opinion: Why so many people think the majority of people feel that they are unworthy? Of course I am worthy and I have never had any doubts about it. I must be different from the rest of everyone because every time I read how we should overcome our (supposedly) unworthiness I think to myself: “Hang on a minute, who told you that I feel unworthy of whatever?!”. Perhaps some people who claim to have feelings of unworthiness what they actually feel is something different: Fear.
    And for that, yes, there’s a lot of mind/energy work too that can be done to get over it.

    Interesting reading from you as always. Thank you!
    Wishing you a great weekend.
    Tree Spirit 🙂

    • Hi Tree Spirit,

      Sorry for the disconnect. This post is for people who feel unworthy. Clearly that’s not you! I’m not assuming you feel unworthy or even that most people feel unworthy. I understand it might feel that way because I used the word “you.” But, you still don’t have to take it personally! It’s just a manner of expression. I’m very glad you feel worthy. May you continue to shine!

  8. Encourage and empower! It’s one of the reasons I love you, Sandra.
    I had to re-evaluate my worth as a teen. I behaved badly. I hurt people to protect myself, and to compensate for wrongs done to me by others unrelated to those I hurt. I was less worthy only because I undertook uncaring actions. As I began to understand and regret the harm I had caused, I was able to make amends and do good to restore myself, and my sense of self-worth. You are right of course, that the worth was always there by design. But we still have to behave in harmony to express it properly.

    • I just wanted to join in the conversation between Tree Spirit and yourself Sandra. Hope that’s okay? I would say that since all we experience is either love or fear, and that unworthiness is a manifestation of fear. Fear and love show up in many aspects and in our wonderful uniqueness we express them differently.
      🙂

      • Hi Elle,

        Of course, always feel free to join the conversation. Thanks for engaging in Tree Spirit’s comments about fear.

        The idea that there are only two feelings, love or fear, comes from The Course In Miracles, doesn’t it? I think that can be a very useful template for looking at our experience in the world.

        I feel the sense of unworthiness can also arise from ignorance of our true nature and then lead to fear. Buddhism tends to make things more complex! They describe 51 mental factors (some are virtuous), which include 6 root destructive emotions. It’s interesting that fear isn’t listed among them. I’ve always wondered about that. That doesn’t mean fear isn’t important in this analysis, just that I don’t know where it fits!

        We have slightly different templates for looking at the world, but I agree with you that love and fear are very fundamental emotions that show up in many aspects of our of lives.

    • I understand fully, Mike. I’m sorry it was turbulent for you as a teen. We’ve all engaged in actions that can make us feel unworthy. It’s so complex and intertwined. Yet, as your story shows so clearly, we can redeem ourselves and this is a wonderful message to be able to pass on to others. I agree it’s still our responsibility to behave in harmony. Thanks for your positive feedback and encouragement!

  9. Hi Sandra, I love the positivity of your post. Much of our definitions of ‘worthy’ or ‘unworthy’, I very much believe comes from the society around us especially in how our success and failures are defined by ‘others’.
    If only we would learn to ‘let go’ and even ‘ignore’ judgement by others, surely we would then have no space to see ourselves as unworthy?
    Much has been said about loving oneself and that sounds like a solid way to feeling worthy. Thank you for this discussion.

  10. I was feeling unworthy to day all day till I read your post and I’m feeling better already. Thank you for what you do.

    • Hi John, I’m sorry to hear you’ve had a tough day. I’m glad my post picked you up because it’s true. You are definitely worthy. You are very welcome.

  11. Yes we are all so worthy! What has helped me a lot is to do affirmations out loud in front of the mirror, saying to myself things like “I deserve the best” has been quite powerful. Thanks to that I finally began working on an online business. What we think of ourselves is what makes the world we live in, and we can quickly start to change the conversation.

    • Hi Gav,

      I’m glad you’ve had such positive success. I too believe our perception makes all the difference in the world!

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