Life is a study in contrasts:
- Birth and Death
- Loving and Letting Go
- Day and Night
- Light and Dark
- Joy and Sorrow
Do you ever get stuck in sorrow? Then keep it going by generating sad-stained thoughts about the future, or going over glum stories from the past?
None of us can escape sorrow, but we don’t have to make it bigger than it is. Once you learn how to hold suffering, you can damper the sadness by amplifying joy.
“The first noble truth states that the nature of samsara (the cycle of conditioned existence, in which our mind is turned outwardly lost in its projections) is suffering. You can focus on the suffering element, but Nyoshul Khenpo said that if you realize and accept it, then when suffering comes it’s not a shock, just a fact of life, and you become free.
With more acceptance and less aversion, the suffering becomes almost bearable. In the West, you focus too much on the mind, exaggerate, and get sick simply by worrying.” – Sogyal Rinpoche
Don’t resist the sorrow. Let it rise and flow through, while intentionally turning up the volume on joy. You may feel the suffering, but you know there’s beauty, grace, and possibility too.
Remember the goodness! Let it mingle with the sadness until the sorrow is diluted or even melts away.
- A child’s smile.
- Someone lending a helping hand.
- The smell of fresh baked bread.
- A favorite piece of music.
- The exultation in a moment of grace.
- The nourishment of solitude.
- A kindness shown to you.
- A bouquet of flowers.
- The good fortune of another.
- The unexpected visit of an owl in the daylight.
- The birds singing to you in this very moment.
Temper sorrow with joy. Dare to feel the fullness of life in all its contrasts and colors.
What do you do when you feel stuck in sorrow?
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