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An Effortless Life: 11 Tips to Breeze through It

A Note from Sandra:  I’m delighted to share a guest post with you today from the dynamic and unstoppable Tess Marshall, creator of The Bold Life blog.

Tess Marshall

Tess Marshall

Some people seem to flow through life. They radiate a positive magnetic and loving energy.

It’s not that they don’t have problems or pain. Everyone has difficulties. Tragedy happens. However, certain people seem to effortlessly rise above it, learn from it and move on, quicker than others.

Jack Canfield says, “Life is difficult but it doesn’t have to be a struggle.”

Learning how to live without struggle is a practice. I believe we can all do it, effortlessly.

The following exercises can help you move from a life of struggle to a life of ease.

1. Be love, loving.

Our essence is love. When you really own that, it’s easier to practice being loving. Use the affirmation, “I am love, being loving.” Life is beautiful when you commit to love. Go out of your way to “be love, loving.” when you wait in line or traffic, when someone pushes your buttons or when things don’t go your way, be love, loving.

2. Don’t just sit there, serve.

When you hear that someone is hurting, is in trouble or need, look for ways to help. Don’t put it off. Don’t post it on Facebook, tweet it or talk about it. Pitch in and help. Make a face-to-face visit or a sincere phone call. Offer to run an errand or bring over dinner.

3. Take a break from electronics.

Get out of your home or office and away from your computer, iPad, iPod, television gaming etc. Spend time outside in nature every day; 10-15 minutes is enough. Feel the wind in your hair and the sun on your face. Stop and smell a flower or two. Being outdoors will change your energy, help you relax and calm you down.

4. Detox your life.

Let go of a toxic relationship, job, memory or story. Release toxic emotions. Replace a bad habit or quit an addiction. Stop with the excuses! We often project the toxins we have control over and do nothing about, onto big toxic corporations that we have very little or no control over. We think they should stop poisoning others, yet we continue to poison ourselves.

5. Get a fresh start.

Put variety in your life. Get out of the everyday routines and the ruts you live in. Learn something new. Visit somewhere you haven’t been before. Do something you’re afraid to try. Make your life the adventure it’s meant to be. Break your routine.

6. Set limits.

Create boundaries. Stop filling your life with other people’s business, gossip and drama. Say no, when you want to say no. It will free up the time and space to do what makes your heart sing. This is your life. You decide how you spend your time.

7. Spread more joy.

Lao Tzu advises one to be empty and full. Empty yourself of anger, resentment and fear. Fill your heart with calm, sunshine and joy. Make this your daily intention. Practice it one day at a time.

8. Do what makes you happy.

Two of my daughters are in sales, one manages a doctor’s office and another is a flight attendant. One of my son-in-laws works in a factory, another in a corporate environment and the third is an architect.

If you have a job, be grateful that you do. There are millions of people without work in this world. If you’re not happy with your current employment, find something that fulfills you. Until then, work with a servant’s heart and be grateful.

10. Learn to forgive.

Forgive yourself and others. Everyone hurts and gets hurt. Drop your story. Stop making excuses. Let go of your heavy heart. Resentment and bitterness will make you miserable. Let go of the past.

11. Embrace your fear.

Would it be alright if in one year your life is exactly the same as it is today?

If you answered “no,” do something about it. Ease and flow is unattainable in the presence of anxiety, worry and fear. If you need help get it. Don’t miss out. You deserve to have a wild, precious and amazing life; the kind that effortlessly flows. Don’t settle for anything less.

If you would like extra guidance and support to create your bold and effortless check out Tess’s, ecourse, “30 Days of Bold“. We’d love you to join us!

Does a sense of struggle sneak into your life?  What do you think about living without struggle?  Tess and I would love to hear your thoughts.

Tess Marshall, founder of The Bold Life is a fear-shattering, risk taker, author, and courage coach with a master’s degree in counseling psychology.

To find out more about her ecourse, click here, “30 Days of Bold”. Please note this is an affiliate link, but the main reason I’m sharing it is because Tess knows her stuff and offers a fabulous course.


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  1. I’ve noticed that for some people, whether in their work, in their relationships, or just in general how they move through this world – if their lives look effortless, it’s because they make it look easy.

    So it’s not necessarily that someone has and easier life than others, but with the grace and calm some people possess – it just looks that way.

    • Pat,

      It’s the very grace and calm you talk about that makes life effortless. By saying it only looks that way means we can’t have it. But when we realize we’re the ones who get in our own way and choose to struggle it means we have the power to choose an easier path.

      For example if I judge, cling to bitterness or an addiction I’m certainly not going to breeze through. I’m going to struggle. Remember there’s a difference between difficult and struggle. One way is with the current and the other is against it. Thanks for sharing!

  2. I’m focusing a lot on creating more ease in my life these days, Tess. So your guest post is very timely for me. I especially love the “love mantra” you’ve given us, but I know it will be helpful to practice each of these tips as the right time during a given day. Thank you so much for honoring us with your presence and wisdom.

  3. Sandra,

    Oh that’s my new one. I’m love, loving! It keep my ego at bay and me on track:) Love to you for all of your support!! xo

  4. Thank you for sharing these great tips Tess! I love Jack Canfield’s quote. It is true that we cannot change the way life unravels but we can choose how we react. I really like the idea of effortless. I think many of us were raised to think that life is meant to be a struggle as in “nothing comes easy”, etc. Your article is a wonderful reminder that there is another way!

    • Hey Carrie,
      I think that it comes from at least my parents generation when life really was a struggle. My parents didn’t have all the luxuries or conveniences of our modern age. However we all have it made in the shade compared to most. So no, I don’t believe it has to be a struggle. Thanks for stopping by.

  5. Great tips, and a good reminder for me today! Coincidentally, my own favorite mantra is “I am lovable, loving, and loved.” Now for a nice cup of tea out on the deck. Thanks! 🙂

  6. Thanks for the nice article with good pointers. I am integrating the points mentioned above into my life. Some points are more “difficult” to implement than others such as letting go and be more forgiving. However, I feel that there is no other better option than this 🙂 Just to need to put in extra effort.

    One thing that I find helpful in introducing more ease in life is through regular meditation practice. In a way, it detoxes my mind, as it gets clearer, less cluttered and I have greater mental resiliency as well. Anyway, just sharing 🙂

    • Hello Mulyadi,

      I’m a big fan of meditation too. Thanks for adding it to the list of ways we can find greater ease in life. Yes, I think we will all find it difficult to implement some of the tips of this list. Otherwise, we would already be perfect! I just try to do my best and have the aspiration to have these good qualities. Thanks for your thoughts.

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