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Be Your Own Valentine!


“Our job is to love others without stopping to inquire whether or not they are worthy. That is not our business and, in fact, it is nobody’s business. What we are asked to do is to love, and this love itself will render both ourselves and our neighbors worthy.”

~Thomas Merton

You don’t need someone else to be your Valentine.  All the love you need is right there within you.  Just breathe in, remember a moment of love, let it fill you up, and then radiate it out too.  Then you can be a Valentine for the world as well.

Don’t think for a moment that you are not worthy of love.  You are love.  Just let it break through and break out.

In this wounded modern culture, I know this isn’t easy.  I’ve struggled with love too.  But just imagine what it would be like to drop all the stories, relax, and allow yourself to enjoy being love.

That’s my simple message today.  There’s tons more nitty-gritty in the posts mentioned below.

I understand you may need help feeling and believing you are worthy of love or maybe you would like to expand your view of love.  If so, my previous posts on the topic may be of help.

Happy Valentine’s Day.  I love you!  And, I hope you love you too.

Thank you for reading and sharing!  If you liked this article, please consider subscribing for free updates by email.  With love, Sandra


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  1. Thank you, Sandra! Just what I needed to hear today <3

  2. Beautiful! Thank you.

  3. Thank you so much for the simple but profound message. Self-love as a condition of awareness, a way of perceiving, an attitude, which results in an integrated perception of the world and all beings in it. Learning how to love yourself is all about empowerment. Until we can become our own Valentine we have little to offer others, but once we can love the person within unconditionally we open the door to experiencing oneness with all beings and knowing love is all there is. May you have a ♥love-ly♥ Valentines Day.

    • I did have a lovely Valentine’s Day. Thanks for your good wishes. You’ve articulated so well the importance of self love. It really does open the door to a wider love!

  4. Sandra,

    Thanks so much for sharing this. Until we learn to love ourselves, how can we expect anyone else to love us.?

    Loving ourselves pays off in other ways as well. We begin to attract good things and loving people to us, and repel toxic ones.

    Happy Valentine’s Day to you too. I love you a bushel and a peck (if you recognize this, then I know how old you are.)

    • Hi Flora,

      So true! We we are in a state of love people are magically drawn to us. Who doesn’t want to be with a loving person?

      Bushel and a peck? What’s that. 🙂

  5. I think I have been a little ‘in love’ a few times during my almost 64 years of living. I was an only child and learned, from a very young age, how to amuse myself. My father worked very hard and my Mom seemed to be always cooking and cleaning. I felt their love for me, however, and I loved them in return.
    Over the years, I have found that – perhaps – there is something genetic in my DNA (my Mother never dated or remarried when my Dad passed at 44 yrs. of age) that prevents me from becoming ‘close’ to the opposite sex. Maybe it was never ‘love’ – just caring and ‘attachment’ that I felt for the few men that have been part of my life for a while. I’m not sure.
    However — I feel I am blessed and I don’t dwell on trying to analyze and theorize. I have been fortunate to have loved (and still hold that love in my heart) so many others. My parents, my grandparents, my friends, my pets, my children, my grandchildren — I love them all — and as I do my metta meditation I realize that I wish all beings (both human and non-human) wellness, prosperity, joy and peace (and that I love all beings also). I feel as if it’s not important who has loved (loves) me that matters as much as how much I have loved (love) them.
    I love my little deaf dog, love my grandchildren, love my older daughter and her husband. I love my friends. I love the beauty of nature, love listening to music, love reading, love walking with my dog (Joy), love seeing the snow fall softly, and just love the fact that I’m able to still move about and breathe.
    Thank you for reminding me about ‘self-love’ and about ‘loving’. And Happy Valentines Day to you, Sandra.
    With love,

    • Sandy,

      I “love” how often you used the word “love” while sharing your thoughts here. Your life seems touched by love in so many ways. And, I think you are right…loving is more important than worry about who loves us. One day the world will discover we are all worthy of love and what a different world it will be!

  6. Yes, oh yes, today and every day! We are on the same wavelength today my friend! xoS

  7. Happy Valentine’s Day Sandra. You are so right about being worthy of love. I believe they day’s of struggle and lack of worth are over for the consciously aware people.

    Take Care.

  8. jean sampson

    Hi Sandra! Lovely post—–self-love is where it all starts! It results in loving self-talk and plays heck with the inner critic (that meanie).
    Happy Valentine’s Day to you!

  9. Yes! What goes around also comes around 🙂

  10. Sandra,

    “A bushel and a peck” comes from the musical “Guys and Dolls. A bushel is 8 dry gallons and a peck is 8 dry quarts. Lose translation: a lot.

    The first few lines of the song are

    I love you, a bushel and a peck!
    A bushel and a peck, and a hug around the neck!
    A hug around the neck, and a barrel and a heap
    A barrel and a heap, and I’m talkin’ in my sleep.

    Geez! That dated me, didn’t it?

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