“Are you planning on turning it into a business or perhaps, you have already done so? I’d love to know what you have been exploring as of late.”
I silently observed a long list of “Yes, buts…” spring forth in my mind. I have a proclivity for producing this entrancing term. How about you?
On the downside, this tiny but recalcitrant phrase will keep you sitting on the fence, confused or even paralyzed for interminable periods of time.
But give it a twist – your full engagement – and “Yes, but…” has the power to catapult you to clarity, thus setting you free.
How to Use “Yes, but…” Prudently
Are there “Yes, buts…” dancing about in your mind?
Choose an aspiration, dream, goal, wish or intention. Then lay all the “Yes, buts…” out on the table. You can do this by free-writing, without stopping, allowing them to pour forth unimpeded. Empty every recess of your mind. Now that you’ve primed the pump, more “Yes, buts…” will pop up at unexpected times throughout the day and even the night. Capture them as well.
Lest you think you can undo me…. here’s my silent response to Farnoosh:
- Yes, but…the word “business” makes me gulp.
- Yes, but…I’m not sure I have the energy or time required.
- Yes, but…It requires a zillion hours of consistent work to create a successful business or blog.
- Yes, but…my dislike of many conventional marketing techniques throws me into a state of suspended animation.
- Yes, but…I live in a fantasy world where people survive and thrive on air.
- Yes, but…I’m afraid of losing sight of my spiritual practice.
- Yes, but…I’m afraid of being swallowed alive.
- Yes, but…It’s hard to say no to all the requests constantly flowing my way.
- Yes, but…I’m not sure I have what it takes.
- Yes, but…I’m not unique, positive, awesome, wild, or epic enough.
- Yes, but…Some of my writing is too esoteric for the average person.
- Yes, but…Does the world really need another personal development blogger when there are so many brilliant ones already?”
Getting all your hesitations, worries, or concerns out on the table, empowers you to examine each one for its veracity and deeper messages. The process also frees you from an unconscious burden that’s been dimming your light. About each one ask, “Is this true or is it fear or a false message in disguise?”
“Yes, but…” – Protector or Liberator?
‘Yes, but…” may be your wise protector. The heart whisper reminding, “You are biting off more than you can chew.” This can be a tendency when our true self is weak and your false self predominates, pushing you to prove yourself with over ambition. But when you swallow more than you can digest, it leads to distress and/or disease. Listen deeply: is your true self or false self speaking in this?
On the other hand, “Yes, but…” can be a cover-up for fear, hesitation, and self-doubt. In this case, unveiling the ‘Yes, buts…’ gives you a chance to undue these inner blockages and explore Aikido-like moves for bypassing each one with elegance and ease.
So please don’t just gloss over your ‘Yes, buts…” They are precious gems! Investigate each facet deeply until you can say “true” or “false” to each one.
A good “Yes, but…” can keep you from making the mistake of your life. A quirky one can be an obstacle when transformed that brings your dream alive. The main point is to get off the divide and choose the right side.
Thanks to Farnoosh, I clearly see how some of my “Yes, buts…” are but sandcastles ready to be swept away. Others have veracity and need to be well-considered lest I find myself heeding the irresistibly sweet song of the false persona who leads one to the imbalanced life.
Do you listen to the “Yes, buts…” dancing in your head? What do they say? How do you respond?
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