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Precise Communication

Imprecision in communication can bring so many headaches, hassles, and heartaches.  Here’s a question for reflection:

How precise am I in my communication?

Pay attention today – and why not this whole week – to see if imprecise communication trips you up.  Let us know what you learn!

[This is part of a series of compelling questions.]

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16 Comments

  1. Of course what you say or mean to say might not be properly understood. I once asked my wife (who was in the kitchen cooking dinner) “What time is it” and she responded “We are having spaghetti”. Perhaps I should have asked ” Are we having spaghetti for dinner?” and she might have answered “It’s 5:00”.
    Riley

  2. Hi Sandra! Hope you’re well. It’s been a little while and I had to take an extended leave of absence from blogging but I think I’m back for good now. (knock on wood)

    I like this series of questions and look forward to others. As a rule, I’m a good communicator to groups – I can speak publicly and I can draw people in with writing, but as a one-on-one influencer, I think I’m pretty lousy and it’s largely because I’m not good at being direct. Maybe it’s the people-pleaser in me.

    • Hi Bryan,

      Nice to have you back! Being direct and setting boundaries one-on-one can be hard, that’s for sure! I’m just now reading a book called Better Boundaries. It’s an art and often a skill that’s discouraged when we’re children. It’s one I’m working on learning myself.

  3. Precise communications is something my wife and I struggle with quite often. Even after 35 years of marriage sometimes I swear we are talking in different languages. I will say something that seems quite clear, only to have her “hear” something entirely different. Of course, it works the other way, too.

    Now, we try to use words that are as specific as possible, but there are still times when the message is garbled.

  4. For my mother, truth in communication was sometimes a fluid concept. I think that is why my sister and I have always highly valued precise communication. It was no accident, I think, that I became not only a lawyer, but a contract negotiator and drafter. And then a teacher of drafting contracts. Even so, I think we all recognize the inherent imprecision in any language.

  5. I think this is a problem for some bilinguals. If you’re thinking in one language and speaking in another, a lot can be misunderstood. Sometimes I use it as an excuse but more often than not it can be frustrating when others just can’t see what you mean.

    • This is such a great example of situations that require more sensitivity and precision. Naturally, it can be frustrating when you want to be understand. Thanks for sharing this angle on the challenge.

  6. Like Bob Lowry, I feel that my husband and I still don’t communicate in the same way. We know what causes this, and yet we still continue.

  7. Hi Sonia,

    It’s hard to break old habits, isn’t it? I wish you luck with this. I remember your post on the topic of communicating with men and it had great tips.

  8. Hi Sandra, I think this is particularly important for me in the context of saying what I want — it’s helpful for me to watch for places where I don’t fully state what I want for fear that the other person is going to go away and never be seen again. I suppose we could call that being precise about what I want, or at least using that goal as a tool for awareness.

    • Hi Chris,

      Yes, I think that’s very in-sync here. It seems to relate to having clear boundaries, which means being precise. Have that goal can definitely give us more awareness of the places we are stuck in our communication and personal relationships! Thanks for adding this angle.

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