What qualities do you wish for in a doctor? This is an excellent question from Sick Momma.
Having clear and specific expectations of a doctor will put you in the driver’s seat. It’s far better to sort this out early – far before you ever become sick.
I’ve seen untold numbers of allopathic doctors over the years, including a whole run of specialists. Most of them have been very kind, but I’ve had a few horrific experiences. I always bear in mind that medical doctors are limited by a system that focuses on subduing symptoms and prescribing drugs. Their job is not rooting out the true cause of illness and focusing upon healing.
I’ve also seen an array of holistic doctors including chiropractors, acupuncturists, and Tibetan and Ayurvedic physicians. In my world, the word doctor is not limited to M.D. Even natural doctors can be limited by their particular expertise and way of looking at health and illness.
Therefore, you have to be both savvy and realistic when it comes to selecting a doctor.
My Dream Doctor
Doctors are like car mechanics for the body. Some are far better than others. It pays to be selective since your body is far more important than your car. These are the qualities I look for in a doctor.
1. The Best of East and West
I far prefer a natural approach to health, preventive measures, and self-healing solutions, At the same time, it’s important to have access to modern medicine as needed.
For example, when I got hit by a car on my bike, I was delighted to be rushed to a hospital and treated by allopathic doctors.
One of my favorite doctors was a heart specialist who switched mid-career to functional medicine. He then practiced General Medicine using natural treatments like acupuncture, homeopathy, diet, and herbs. I find this mix of modern medicine and traditional holistic approaches the best.
For example, this doctor was brilliant at ordering and interpreting standard blood tests. He had a unique ability to see what most doctors missed. His first line of treatment was a natural approach. But, he did not hesitate to prescribe medical tests and prescription drugs when needed.
2. A Team of Doctors
Since it’s rare to find a doctor that embodies the best of East and West, I’ve often chosen a team approach. My current team includes three doctors: a naturopath, an acupuncturist, and a specialist in NAET, an alternative treatment for allergies and hypersensitivities to foods and inhalants.
In some states, naturopaths have exactly the same privileges as an M. D. – they can order tests, prescribe drugs, and deliver babies. Again, a terrific mix of modern and natural medicine in my eyes.
3. A Collaborative Spirit
It’s impossible for any single doctor to be fully up-to-date with all the new research occurring in most fields of medicine. I’m bright and have a great deal to contribute. If a doctor isn’t open minded, receptive, and a good listener, he or she will quickly get crossed off my list. A doctor needs to be willing to work in partnership with me and not function like an arrogant boss.
I have no need for doctors who ascribe symptoms they don’t understand to being psychogenic in origin. With access to the internet and the ability to research and often diagnose our own problems, that kind of quackery will no longer fly. I respect a doctor who is willing to say, “I don’t know.”
While it’s not always the case, I generally find women doctors more open minded, collaborative, and empathetic.
5. Intelligent, curious, problem solver
Medicine is not a foolproof science. I want a smart doctor who is at adept in their field. One who is willing to go to the ends of the earth to piece together the puzzle.
Despite all the advances in medicine, the body is still a mystery. Intuition is often the key that unblocks a complex case.
7. Not in a Rush
We are told to prepare well for medical appointments because they are - by definition – short. Why must that be? I prefer a natural approach where doctors generally give more time and attention to each individual case.
8. Empathetic and friendly
We all deserve kindness. It’s as simple as that!
I find the worst quality in a doctor to be arrogance. Don’t put up with it for even a moment!
Even the perfect doctor cannot always diagnose your illness. The body is a beautiful mystery and every person’s life path is different. I choose to see illness as a teacher with much to offer me. Instead of relying exclusively upon a doctor, cultivating receptivity, tuning into my own body, self-care practices like Qigong, and patience have made all the difference for me.
What qualities do you wish for in a doctor?
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